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Difficult day today...apart from the laundry needing to be done. I have been contacted to make a statement to both the police and the council (who own the flats here)

My flat is one of 4 in a block. The upstairs neighbours diagonally to my flat have a very volatile relationship which, over the last 6 months or so has become worse and needing police intervention more than once.

Just before 3pm yesterday very loud screams came from the upstairs flat, some of which brought memories of my own experiences flooding back. A neighbour in an upstairs flat opposite started hammering on the security door next to my front door as he had seen the male beating and throttling the female in the flat. The neighbour opposite plus at least 5 others and myself called the police since this was by far the worst incident so far.

The police came, forced their way into the flat upstairs and dragged the male downstairs and out into the communal area. Another police officer stayed upstairs with the female but she refused to talk to the police. Without her co-operation there was nothing the police would do apart from tell the male to go walk off his bad temper.

The police also noted that the flat was wrecked, filthy and that the female was covered in bruises.

Whilst those of us who called the police were talking to them outside, the neighbour next to me and under the problem flat came out. She is the one with the noisy dog. She tried to imply that the female picked fights since that is what the male had told her. I couldn't believe what I was hearing from her, she completely went against what 8 of us either saw and/or heard.

Without co-operation from the female upstairs the police could do nothing other than ask for statements to be done today and to call them out again if any further issues occur. The council also need statements in order to see if eviction of the two of them upstairs can be done on a fast track. Evicting them is not the answer since that only moves the problem it doesn't deal with it.

So the police will be here at 10am and the council at 1pm today. I didn't sleep well at all last night. I know it takes two to make an argument but as someone who experienced domestic abuse first hand in the 1980's when the police did not take any action cos it was not deemed a crime back then, the screams were absolutely bone chilling and not something anyone can forget in a hurry.
 
Difficult day today...apart from the laundry needing to be done. I have been contacted to make a statement to both the police and the council (who own the flats here)

My flat is one of 4 in a block. The upstairs neighbours diagonally to my flat have a very volatile relationship which, over the last 6 months or so has become worse and needing police intervention more than once.

Just before 3pm yesterday very loud screams came from the upstairs flat, some of which brought memories of my own experiences flooding back. A neighbour in an upstairs flat opposite started hammering on the security door next to my front door as he had seen the male beating and throttling the female in the flat. The neighbour opposite plus at least 5 others and myself called the police since this was by far the worst incident so far.

The police came, forced their way into the flat upstairs and dragged the male downstairs and out into the communal area. Another police officer stayed upstairs with the female but she refused to talk to the police. Without her co-operation there was nothing the police would do apart from tell the male to go walk off his bad temper.

The police also noted that the flat was wrecked, filthy and that the female was covered in bruises.

Whilst those of us who called the police were talking to them outside, the neighbour next to me and under the problem flat came out. She is the one with the noisy dog. She tried to imply that the female picked fights since that is what the male had told her. I couldn't believe what I was hearing from her, she completely went against what 8 of us either saw and/or heard.

Without co-operation from the female upstairs the police could do nothing other than ask for statements to be done today and to call them out again if any further issues occur. The council also need statements in order to see if eviction of the two of them upstairs can be done on a fast track. Evicting them is not the answer since that only moves the problem it doesn't deal with it.

So the police will be here at 10am and the council at 1pm today. I didn't sleep well at all last night. I know it takes two to make an argument but as someone who experienced domestic abuse first hand in the 1980's when the police did not take any action cos it was not deemed a crime back then, the screams were absolutely bone chilling and not something anyone can forget in a hurry.
Poor girl is probably terrified if she says anything it’ll come back worse onto her, it’s happened too many times. If you say something they do something
 
Poor girl is probably terrified if she says anything it’ll come back worse onto her, it’s happened too many times. If you say something they do something
Oh I know that feeling all too well...just as I knew she was being throttled by the tone of the screaming before the neighbour said he had witnessed it happening

During the very hot weather that we had a few weeks ago she was out and about in roll neck sweaters...neck and arms covered...just as I used to do.

But those screams....brought everything back to me 😢
 
So the police will be here at 10am and the council at 1pm today. I didn't sleep well at all last night. I know it takes two to make an argument but as someone who experienced domestic abuse first hand in the 1980's when the police did not take any action cos it was not deemed a crime back then, the screams were absolutely bone chilling and not something anyone can forget in a hurry.
It doesn't take 2 to make an argument. All you need is 1 ahole with a bad temper or issues and they will whale on you day after day for no reason. My sister used to do that to me. I put up with it for 9 years before she lied to the courts and had me thrown out of my home. I never did anything to her, she is just a lunatic with issues about her ex boyfriend.

The female tenant needs to talk to the police and get out of there. She needs to find someone different who doesn't beat or abuse her, and she needs to do it now or she will probably be found dead one day.

Maybe the counci9l or cops can give her some info about emergency accommodation and help her move.
 
My day is the usual. Got brown and black stains appearing in the ceiling. So either the roof is leaking or the rats are pooping in the same spot. There are bugs everywhere and when I was having lunch, I broke a tooth. I have to visit the dentist tomorrow and have the tooth rebuilt so there goes another $400+.
 
Man... sounds like rough days for everyone
 
Whew. Tough times. I used to live next door to a similar family, WMWI. I had to call the cops on a few occasions, and once my brother and I had to break up a beating and keep the guy at bay until the cops arrived. That was no fun, and we weren't dealing with similar past traumas like you are. I feel for you.

I'm looking forward to a good day today: First day back with the kids. I'll be starting learning their names, teaching them some songs, and such. I feel blessed that the whole purpose of my subject area is to have fun, so that's generally what we do. Teaching is one of those careers where you never have to wonder whether you're making a difference in the world. Let's hope it's a GOOD difference. :)
 
I used to live on a street very close to a flat used as a shelter for battered women and their kids. It was supposed to be secret but the neighbourhood figured it out and supported it. One night there was a local gangster out in the street waving a handgun around looking for his partner - he'd tracked her to the street but not to the address. I can't express my admiration for the courage of the women who worked in and ran that shelter with very little support (it was in the 80s, and while the police are better trained now, working in a shelter is still a line of work for gutsy characters).
So thanks to @wasmewasntit 's post, today I'm thinking about that.

Otherwise, feeling retired when I read @WhistlingBadger 's post - the first day back to working with kids was always so exciting. It just felt good to get back to. I enjoy the company of schools of fish now, but it isn't the same.
 
I used to live on a street very close to a flat used as a shelter for battered women and their kids. It was supposed to be secret but the neighbourhood figured it out and supported it. One night there was a local gangster out in the street waving a handgun around looking for his partner - he'd tracked her to the street but not to the address. I can't express my admiration for the courage of the women who worked in and ran that shelter with very little support (it was in the 80s, and while the police are better trained now, working in a shelter is still a line of work for gutsy characters).
So thanks to @wasmewasntit 's post, today I'm thinking about that.

Otherwise, feeling retired when I read @WhistlingBadger 's post - the first day back to working with kids was always so exciting. It just felt good to get back to. I enjoy the company of schools of fish now, but it isn't the same.
Well, schools are always looking for volunteers! But I know that wouldn't be the same, either. What did you teach?
 

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