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[Back in the fold]

That is just a defensive shield gone too far though,, and I'll be honest I have one to. It's hard for me to actually become attached to someone. But I know that when I like someone, I really like them. I don't trust a lot of the time when it comes to meeting people in person. I can also be very gullible sadly sometimes as well. But I try to be somewhere in the middle.

And there it is ! Gullibility ! People smell it and jump on it. Gullibility and trust got me nowhere.

 

[Rocky998]

And there it is ! Gullibility ! People smell it and jump on it. Gullibility and trust got me nowhere.

I feel like everyone need a dash of it. Just a salt dash to be able to make friends. Otherwise you become very lonely.

 

[Back in the fold]

Bottom line is this. Trust no one until they surprise you by being trustworthy but don't hold your breath waiting for that day.

 

[Rocky998]

Bottom line is this. Trust no one until they surprise you by being trustworthy but don't hold your breath waiting for that day.

I think I can agree with that for the most part...

 

[betta4ever!]

I'm sorry to have been a bummer. I certainly do not want to be that guy that goes around being a wet blanket. Just relating my reality.

No don't apologize! I'm sorry for what you've been through and I really hope you're happy right now

 

[Back in the fold]

No don't apologize! I'm sorry for what you've been through and I really hope you're happy right now

I'll live. And truth be told I am happy. Someone's signature around here says " that which doesn't kill you mutates and tries again". That and the definition of insanity being trying the same thing over and over expecting a different result sums up my life experience with people in general. There are good people in the world. There are trustworthy and nice people in the world but they are few and far between . It's my nature to be a loner and I like it that way. People bug me and maybe they sense that so I've probably been my own worst enemy without knowing it. But , I'm okay with life in general. Remember the first Conan movie ? Conan's Dad tells him " not men , not women , not beasts can you trust Conan". Then holding up the sword he says "this you can trust". I trust my fish. They don't judge me , they don't talk back and they're always there. Life is good.

 

[JuiceBox52]

I'll live. And truth be told I am happy. Someone's signature around here says " that which doesn't kill you mutates and tries again". That and the definition of insanity being trying the same thing over and over expecting a different result sums up my life experience with people in general. There are good people in the world. There are trustworthy and nice people in the world but they are few and far between . It's my nature to be a loner and I like it that way. People bug me and maybe they sense that so I've probably been my own worst enemy without knowing it. But , I'm okay with life in general. Remember the first Conan movie ? Conan's Dad tells him " not men , not women , not beasts can you trust Conan". Then holding up the sword he says "this you can trust". I trust my fish. They don't judge me , they don't talk back and they're always there. Life is good.

That’s my signature lol

 

[PheonixKingZ]

It isn't grim or pessimistic or anything negative , it's reality. Connect with reality and you will be a lot less frustrated in life. This Pollyanna idea that people are your friends is delusional. Nobody really cares. They have their own life and problems. You aren't going to stay up till the wee hours of the morning discussing intimate details of your life with anyone or running like Sir Galahad to anyone's rescue and they aren't going to do any of that for you. The sooner you realize that people are fickle and unreliable the better. You can talk to people and temporarily enjoy their company but that's as far as it ever goes. Good luck with that friend idea.

 

[Rocky998]

In my profile posts someone kept me up to date on how many posts I had
That person being @FishandBirdLover.
I realized my post number was at 11,799 and wanted my 11,800th post to be something special.
Naela (@FishandBirdLover), said to give someone a compliment and make their day for my 11,800th post...
I loved that idea.
But there was one issue I thought of. To randomly select one person out of all the wonderful members here and just compliment them felt wrong.
So... Instead I had another idea.

@FishandBirdLover, while new, is one of the very kinds souls on the forum and always seems to be happy.
@PheonixKingZ seems to be the chill teenager of the forum here...
And of course we would never have this random discussion without the one and only @Crispii!
He's a cool kid.
@betta4ever! Is like Naela in the way that she always seems to be happy and cheering people up.
And @JuiceBox52... She keeps her head high even when in the hospital. Her medical conditions don't stop her from following her passion as an artist, which is a huge inspiration to anyone out there...
@AdoraBelle Dearheart, even when she felt offended, stood strong and decided it would be best to stay rather than leave...
There are so many other members on here who take time out of their days and lives to help people in dire need of assistance on their aquariums or to just talk to a friendly community in general.
We all form a community, every single member contributes something to the table here.
You, yes im talking to any member that is reading this, you make up a part of this community and your valued on the forum...

Of course we could never even be here in this safe environment if it wasn't for all the mods and admins keeping us all controlled.
They all respect their duties and never abuse their powers..
We rarely thank them but they do a lot and deserve a lot of thanks.

I hope I was able to make someone's day and let's not forget, Naela is the person who inspired me to do so. So a HUGE thanks goes out to her in this.

 

[GaryE]

This thread took a very dark turn though a couple of pages. If that which doesn't kill you mutates, it isn't mutating to kill you. Don't take it personally. It may be mutating to kill, but you're a minor organism in its scheme of things. Know your weaknesses. Your strengths are of no interest to people who will mistreat you. They look for vulnerabilities.

I have no interest in faith, which I think is a vice. I have a great interest in works. I look at what people are doing, not saying. I try to listen. If they're very involved in something that intrigues me, they are often too busy for the petty drama that destroys those around them. If they have all the answers, they'll try to twist reality, which you are part of, to fit their answers. It never works and they become nasty about it.

During the early pandemic, my wife was battling cancer and deep in chemo, surgeries and more chemo - as vulnerable to the virus as a person could be. We were in isolation for many months. A surprising number of friends stepped up, with no drama, and no strings attached. The busiest, hard working people we knew stepped up. The ones who were all talk, leadership and into hierarchy didn't, as expected. It's if you don't expect that that you get burned.

Drama is important. Those that seek it are untrustworthy. Those that deal with it because they have to but are bored by it have potential as friends. We humans loooove drama though.

 

[PheonixKingZ]

I have no interest in faith, which I think is a vice. I have a great interest in works. I look at what people are doing, not saying. I try to listen. If they're very involved in something that intrigues me, they are often too busy for the petty drama that destroys those around them. If they have all the answers, they'll try to twist reality, which you are part of, to fit their answers. It never works and they become nasty about it.

That’s exactly why we don’t discuss religion on this forum.

 

[Rocky998]

That’s exactly why we don’t discuss religion on this forum.

Yah... I honestly have no idea why he randomly had to bring it up but whatever....

 

[GaryE]

That’s exactly why we don’t discuss religion on this forum.

I think when we develop theories about belief systems we create problems for ourselves. When my wife was ill, a Hindu family across the road were amazing. They had just moved in and we barely knew them, but they went out of their way. If I projected that onto all Hindus, I'd be burned by people fast. Instead, while I label that one family here, I assume they were good people because they were good people. I asked them about Diwali, the festival of light, because it was new to me, but they simply answered questions and left it there. The festival and the people celebrating it were cool, and we got them a diwali gift. The ideas behind it didn't matter to me.
A lot of people have tried to save my soul, convince me of rigid ideologies, tell me certain leaders were great, get me to join cults, sell me systems - and those are the ones I avoid. Reality always has to be bent to make it fit, and in that process, you get burned. When I was younger, I was more rigid and assured, and was even invited to run for election. I thought about it, but the question of what power was for got some responses around me I didn't feel like being part of.

Whatever I happen to be, I'll get along with people who accept that, warts and all. If I'm self aware, I try to avoid doing damage to others, and if they're doing the same, that adds up to whatever 'good' is to me.

I do think fear and mistrust are commodities that are being sold in some circles, as they divide people and keep them from working together. I'm no naive, happy face guy. I have met some downright evil, manipulative people - a lot of them. But I don't think they're the majority. They may become the leaders, but.

 

[GaryE]

Faith isn't just religion. It's a way of thinking I mistrust. You may interpret it as religious, but it isn't.

 

[Deleted member 149562]

When faced with personal tragedy or something like a health issue with yourself or a loved one it ALWAYS makes you question exactly what you were brought up to believe in and those around you who you thought were friends.

Stare death in the face either personally or through a loved one and you find out exactly who your true friends are....and you do start to question the structure of the faith or belief system, regardless which you followed or follow