Hullo, sorry for vanishing again, I just needed a break. Missed many of you though <3

[AdoraBelle Dearheart]

Thank you so much for all the thoughtful messages, everyone. The service was as nice as could be hoped for, I made it through the readings and worked through the times I got choked up, it was good to see some family that I rarely see, and family that I haven't seen since I was a kid, so nice to make contact with them again! Friend/neighbour looked after the Pix for me from about 11:30am - 5:30ish pm, so grateful for that! Pix was really good apparently, so I'm really relieved she didn't give her hell! Could have gone either way. Thankfully they're dog people and doted on her, and took lots of adorable photos of her cuddling them on the sofa or sprawled out on the floor.

Was nice that Pix lost her mind with happiness when I picked her up though! Then I took her on a walk in the rain in the park, so the mud monster enjoyed that.

Today was rough, but I'm glad the funeral isn't hanging over my head anymore.

 

[Essjay]

I've been thinking of you today, I'm glad to hear you managed to cope with it all.


And that Pixie coped without you for a few hours.

 

[AdoraBelle Dearheart]

We found out a week ago that mum likely had bowel cancer and went through a lot of tests and scans last week. Today we found out that it has spread from the colon to the liver, and is terminal. We see the oncologist next week to discuss whether mum wants to/is able to have chemotherapy, and whether she wants to go through chemo to give us some extra time, but that it isn't curable. It's only been nine months since we lost dad, and now this.

 

[CaptainBarnicles]

So sorry Belle, this is heartbreaking news hope you're managing Lovely

 

[Rocky998]

We found out a week ago that mum likely had bowel cancer and went through a lot of tests and scans last week. Today we found out that it has spread from the colon to the liver, and is terminal. We see the oncologist next week to discuss whether mum wants to/is able to have chemotherapy, and whether she wants to go through chemo to give us some extra time, but that it isn't curable. It's only been nine months since we lost dad, and now this.

I'm so sorry Belle
My thoughts are with you...

 

[Slaphppy7]

My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours during this difficult time.

God bless.

 

[seangee]

Oh so sorry to read that. Sending positive vibes and thinking of you in this time.

 

[The603]

So sorry to hear, our thoughts are with you and your family.

 

[Naughts]

So sorry AdoraBelle.

We found out a week ago that mum likely had bowel cancer and went through a lot of tests and scans last week. Today we found out that it has spread from the colon to the liver, and is terminal. We see the oncologist next week to discuss whether mum wants to/is able to have chemotherapy, and whether she wants to go through chemo to give us some extra time, but that it isn't curable. It's only been nine months since we lost dad, and now this.

I know you and your mum will make the right decision next week. We had to do this for my mother-in-law and even with moments of doubt (who wouldn't when facing such a momentous decision) we knew our instincts were the best option to follow.
My thoughts are with you.

 

[emeraldking]

So, sorry to hear...
I know what this can do with someone from own experience. I wish you all all the strength possible and wisdom in this situation. My thoughts are with you all...

 

[AdoraBelle Dearheart]

The oncologist doesn't think mum's health will allow her to manage chemo, and suggests palliative care only. Which I was expecting to be honest, and since she isn't in pain or feeling more unwell than usual at the moment, I didn't think she'd want to go through chemo to potentially add a few months anyway.

But the even worse news is that he said we're talking a prognosis of months, not years.

Life is so cruel sometimes.

 

[CaptainBarnicles]

I'm so sorry you're in my thoughts Belle...

 

[AdoraBelle Dearheart]

More bad news, my best friend adopted an ex-racer Greyhound about 5 -6 years ago, 1st dog of his own and he adores him. He and I took his Greyhound and my Pix on a dog holiday in Cornwall so we could spend a whole week in a cabin with the dogs, and spend days at the beach, exploring Cornish towns, rivers and places of natural beauty, and both we and the dogs had a fantastic time.

His Grey developed a limp last week, vet did an ex ray, and turns out it's osteocarcinoma, a really aggressive and fast spreading form of cancer with a terrible prognosis, even with drastic medical intervention.... and there's the ethical dilemma of putting an 8 yr old dog through a leg amputation and chemo, if it'll only give him a few extra months, max. It's super sad, and I'm sad for both the Greyhound who I love, and my bestie who I adore and I know is upset.

 

[Eliza J]

Has been a very difficult few months, and fish have been looked after, but all projects and showing off tanks etc put on hold, so didn't really have anything to post about either. Was just trying to keep other real life things and my mental health together.

We lost my dad last week. We're all still devastated and reeling. Dad was my hero and rock, and the world without him in it doesn't make sense to me. I'm a wreck, but having to plough through it to care for my mum (who is beside herself and devastated, married for more than 50 years, and I'm trying to arrange the funeral/estate/no will/hunting for paperwork etc. I've never arranged a funeral before and there's so much to navigate and think of, and so hard to do when you're grieving and crying through it.

Doing maintenance on tanks today in between phone calls and appointments/visits, so thought of you guys and wanted to check in. I'm sorry again for just vanishing, but those of you who've known me since I joined know that I dip in and out and have taken a break for a few months before coming back. It's only when real life is busy, and/or my depression makes me withdraw. Nothing personal against anyone and not gone forever! I've been here for years now, and will keep coming back as long as the forum is here and as long as I'm still welcome/not banned, lol.

Losing your dad is very difficult, as a daughter you just dont realize how strange life is with your dad no longer in it. Im very sorry, and will pray for you and family. Gods strength/peace be with you in spite of the horribly busy sad time you’re in the midst of.

 

[AdoraBelle Dearheart]

Losing your dad is very difficult, as a daughter you just dont realize how strange life is with your dad no longer in it. Im very sorry, and will pray for you and family. Gods strength/peace be with you in spite of the horribly busy sad time you’re in the midst of.

Thank you so much! For both the empathy and prayers. I'm so sorry about your loss of your own dad, since that sounds like personal grief at experiencing the same thing. Yes, I was lucky to have a doting dad, and was very much a daddy's girl. It's a special bond.

It's been nine months since he passed, and it still doesn't feel real at times. It has gotten easier gradually, but it's still surreal at times and devastating at others.

Now we just had the news that my mum has cancer, can't be treated beyond palliative care, and only has months left. After 57 yrs together, she's now preparing to rejoin him. I so hope that they are together again when she passes.

I'm a disaster, but just trying to get by day to day now.