one-eyed betta in the netherlands

[BettaMomma]

So...
Just so I understand correctly - I am the root of a lot of the problem here, is that correct?

 

[hello kitty]

betta momma i think its great what u do, have u got in touch with bettaman to see if he can help?

 

[OrkyBetta]

Hey bettamomma-

You are the kind of person I wish I could be. Strong, determined, and somehow manage to find the self control to not rip all of our selfish heads off.

You are right, as I have been following this thread like some sort of deranged soap opera, your thread has been hijacked. Not your fault. I REALLY hope you don't get kicked out for this thread, you didn't want this thread to turn out like it did.

I hope I can get to know you better, as you have made quite te name for yourself on here, how many threads do you see saying "pulling a bettamomma'' or the like.

Alright, pointless post. But this IS bettamomma's thread. I hope you get that fish, BM, and if I wasn't stuck in NY, I would help.

 

[BettaMomma]

Bettaman actually did respond to me with some really good advice.
In the meantime, someone actually did email me from aquabid and said they could help me out. It's probably going to cost me a fortune and he'll probably have to be in transit for quite some time. BUT.. I'm waiting for all the details.

If the length of transit isn't too long I'm going to go for it. I don't want the poor guy to die on his way over - so we'll see what the outlook is. I guess his alternative chances aren't any better, but we'll see.

Thanks for asking.

 

[Erised]

*pops in for a second*

Firstly, why can't Joep take it? I guess it's the same problem as me, living too far away for picking up of a pet.

I would love to take him in, and I do have a spare 2.5G tank here, guess I could make a spongue filter, have bloodworms ... however, haven't ever looked after a betta. Also, I have no way of being able to pick him up, not being able to drive and being very low on money right now (reumatism stops me working, bf should be getting a job on wednesday though!).

If there's anyway you guys can think of that I can help though, I'll try (if it doesnt involve illigal things that is ).

 

[BettaMomma]

HA! lol

Hmm... well I guess the issue with Joep is that he isn't licensed to ship. Someone from the US (a transshipper) contacted me from a post I made on aquabid, and said I could be able to get her to ship him to Thailand and then to me.

It's all very scary to me because I feel like I'd be putting this fish through very unnecessary stress. But we will see what happens.

On a side note, if I can't get it to work out, I'd gladly get it worked out to have her ship him to you - IF you'd want to take on a little one-eyed boy. I believe the rules say she can ship within her own country, but not to another.

If you could give me the vicinity where you live, i can see just how far away from you she is located. This could work out great, too.

 

[Erised]

Ofcourse I'd be happy to take in a 1 eyed boy! I'll need to read up on bettas a bit and will probably need some advice on how often to feed and that kind of stuff, but I'm quite sure that that shouldn't be a problem at all I'm sure that next to our other 7 tanks, 1 betta won't cause any problems ... just gotta make sure to not get addicted to them, bf wouldn't appreciate that

I'll PM you my address just incase you need it

 

[BettaMomma]

Well... I won't tell you they're not addicing, cuz that would be a lie. But I think it would be the perfect setup for a little one-eyed boy.

I will certainly keep you posted - I'll find out what she has to say about where you live, and if she could ship him, etc.

thanks again!!

 

[abstract]

BettaMomma: it was you (i THINK) that had a quote in their sig or profile that inspired me - something about a man picking up starfish that had washed up on the beach. when asked why he did all of this work when he couldn't help them all, he responded that he made a difference to THAT one as he tossed another one into the sea and continued on.

since then i have been doing my best to pick up a few pieces of trash each day and to do the little things around the beaches and parks here that make a difference. keep up all of the work you have done, don't let others question your motives or reasoning - you are making a difference out there.

 

[BettaMomma]

I put my quote back up.
I don't remember why I had removed it from my signature, but I put it back.

I'm so glad you were inspired by it. It has inspired me since I was a little kid - and a while back I was watching Nanny 911 (don't ask) and heard it on there, and knew I needed to use it.

Keep up the good work

 

[afireinside]

that is a good quote, now if i can only get that through me dad's head.

 

[WILDER]

Missed the thread for a day or two, how are things going.

 

[SRC]

So...
Just so I understand correctly - I am the root of a lot of the problem here, is that correct?

No.


What you do is good. Helping is good. Getting aggravated and actually taking the iniciative, time, and effort to find ways at resovling the issue is good. (in regards to your walmart venture)

You do all those things. You seem to be very passionate about fish, which is good.


What is bad are these people who follow what you do, from thread to thread and website to website, and then blow it out of proportion. These people who take your good work and turn it into somethign ugly.

That is why I referenced PETA. They started off good. Helping animals that needed a voice. But now, oh now, look at them. They have gone off the deep end. For example, you have PETA people running up behind ladies wearing mink coats and spray painting them...now how mature is that? What message does that send out? that it's ok to do wrong to the wrong doer's? What a farse.

These people that follow your threads and your doings and then make such brutal comments (whether serious or not..they still had the forethought to post such thoughts)..they totally unravel what you seem to be trying to accomplish.

If they continue...it will do you no good. Strong arming will accomplish nothing..except getting doors closed in your face before you've even been given a chance to speak your peace.

Take this for example:

You want this fish. It started off you trying to get this fish shipped to you from this breeder. That was good.

The breeder explained they could not ship live animals outside theri country without a license..which is true..that's why they have trans-shippers.

Then you proceeded to try and find a way around that..that was good.

Then within a few civil posts you've got people coming at the breeder telling them they are stupid, they are wrong, they should be shot, that they are lying about not being able to legally ship the fish out of the country to you..

Now, if you were this breeder...and you had been publicly humiliated and chastized in this nature...would you ship this fish to you now? Probably not.

When you hurt or make somoene that you are trying to get somethign from angry they are going to be less likey to work with you. Trying to strong arm this breeder into doing something was NOT the way to get anything accomplished.

You, BettaMomma, did not do this. From the posts I saw you were obviously bewildered and aggravated by the situation, but you were being civil...it's the OTHER people posting behind you that need to work on their communication skills. Most of us are adults here, and the ones who aren't are trying to act like they are, and should know these things. And should act accordingly.

What I'm basically saying is...people need to use their brains and think about what they are trying to say before they post /say it. They have "PREVIEW THIS POST" there for a reason...it's for more then just checking spelling.

 

[BettaMomma]

Issue resolved.

Erised has VERY graciously offered to take him in. She lives about 2 hours from where he lives right now, and I'm going to give them train fare to get up to pick him up. She has a spare 2.5G tank ready for him.

I'm just waiting to hear back from the breeder, but I doubt she'll have any issues with meeting them at the train station.

yay!
I just LOVE happy endings.

 

[Karah's_Mommy]

Way to go Bettamomma and Erised! Where there's a will, there's a way.