EMERGENCY! Dying fish. Bullied guppy. Need help

[Rocky998]

This. I'm all for not giving your age out online but in some circumstances people knowing you may be younger or have mental health considerations may help people to communicate in a more useful way.

My oldest son has ASD and I can quite well imagine him having similar conversations and responding in the same way when he was younger.

I have worked with children from primary age up until adulthood. Sometimes people just need a different approach but if you don't know that it can feel like your bashing your head against a wall.

There is nothing wrong with being young or having mental health considerations, nobody here is going to bash you for it. At the same time you shouldn't feel that you have to declare these kind of things either.

Just in this case a lot of people have been trying to help you and the response they have received has made it harder and harder for them to want to do that. Hence people questioning your age. Honestly they are much more likely to hang in there and try and help if you are younger and inexperienced other just being an adult who doesn't want to listen.

I have a few conditions as well, such as add and I'm on the low spectrum of aspergers autism... It can be hard for me to learn certain things, so sometimes I need something repeated in a different way

 

[xxBarneyxx]

I have a few conditions as well, such as add and I'm on the low spectrum of aspergers autism... It can be hard for me to learn certain things, so sometimes I need something repeated in a different way

Exactly!

Completely off topic but we had such a hard time with my lad at school because the teachers dismissed him as being lazy or not bothering to try. Speaking with him 9 times out of 10 he just didn't understand what the hell they were trying to say, if I went through the same thing with him just in a slightly different way he got it every time.

Thankfully schools seem to be a lot more supportive now but I always regret not getting him into a different school that might have supported him better.

 

[Myraan]

I've been cancelled for less

 

[Guest14017]

Sometimes you dont need plants... Its also up to the person making their tank... As long as you have a cycled aquarium it should be ok if you dont OVERstock. Plants are great additions and should always be considered but if a beginner feels like he shouldn't or he/she isnt able to, then they don't habe to have plants.

I have a Blood Parrot. He just makes a mess of plants so I don't bother. Got him from Walmart and he's about 4 years old and doing okay without plants. Sometimes plants just don't work out. I also have a goldfish and they are known for eating/destroying most plants. Keepers of tiny tropicals like Tetras don't understand that for Cichlids and other types of fish, plants aren't always practical (or necessary). Look at most African Cichlid setups, you won't see any/many plants in these systems usually. So plants are good for some systems, maybe even most systems... but not all systems. Also, rotting plants won't benefit a fish and not everyone can keep plants healthy etc.

 

[Obsessed with fish]

Ok, its not that i dont understand you all, i just sometimes cant follow everyones advice. For example iof someone tells me to buy a new tank for one reson or another, well i cant. Its not allowed. I just dont like it when someone tells me the same thing over and over when i have told them mulible times to leave me alone and that i understand. He also kept saying i should not be keeping fish and that im not a good fish kepper, and that stabed my heart.

 

[Myraan]

I think what is frustrating people is they give you advice in one thread. You answer "thank you for the advice, I will go and follow that".

The following day you start a new thread asking for advice on how to fix the problem you created by doing the opposite to the advice you already had.

 

[Obsessed with fish]

I think what is frustrating people is they give you advice in one thread. You answer "thank you for the advice, I will go and follow that".

The following day you start a new thread asking for advice on how to fix the problem you created by doing the opposite to the advice you already had.

ye, i think ur right.

 

[Obsessed with fish]

IDK inever said ok to the guppy thing a few days ago so i dont know what wasmewasntit is on about. Idk the reason but you guys dont know what its like to be accused of being bad at the thing your most passionate about.

 

[Obsessed with fish]

bye 2 different people.

 

[Bruce Leyland-Jones]

ye, i think ur right.

Read my PM again.

Most of us on this forum can be given a piece of advice and then apply it to EVERYTHING we do.
A minority receive that advice and can apply it to the one situation...but not to everything they do. For people like that, they ned the advice repeating for each and every instance.

 

[Obsessed with fish]

Read my PM again.

Most of us on this forum can be given a piece of advice and then apply it to EVERYTHING we do.
A minority receive that advice and can apply it to the one situation...but not to everything they do. For people like that, they ned the advice repeating for each and every instance.

if one more bad thing happens on this forum im gonna get my account deleted and start a new one and never say anything to anyone.

 

[Guest14017]

if one more bad thing happens on this forum im gonna get my account deleted and start a new one and never say anything to anyone.

You should calm down. If you never wanted to speak to anyone, you would not need a new account. Just stop posting on the forum. People are trying to help you. Take it for what it is.

 

[Obsessed with fish]

You should calm down. If you never wanted to speak to anyone, you would not need a new account. Just stop posting on the forum. People are trying to help you. Take it for what it is.

ok, sorry.

 

[Obsessed with fish]

Sorry everyone i will be more calm im just a bit worried about fu and im in a bad mood, when he gets better i will calm down a lot.

 

[Obsessed with fish]

Should i be worried that fu is not eating. Hes still lying down but occasionly swimming at weird angles. He refuses to eat, usally he goes for the food like crazy. Should i be worried if hes not eating, does that mean hes sick?