Christmas Card

[black angel]

it is clever how hes worded it and taken the trouble to write it but as to how you reply i dont know. If you feel uncomfortable then speak to a supervisor and maybe change saturday to another day of the week.
Maybe you can get a colleague to stand with you before he goes through so he wont talk to you long and if he asks about the card say you appreciate it but your boyfriend wasnt too happy.

 

[Arfie]

Ah, makes sense now, in that case.




























GET THE RESTRAINING ORDER

He has an obsession, maybe it's the lovely green fleece

Seriously, I think black angel has the best idea, tell him your boyfriend was seriously not happy with it.

Arfie

 

[boozybears]

Again I agree with Arfie (yikes..that's twice on one day! )

He obviously put a lot of effort into it..but it still sends up more red flags than I can even say and if it makes you even the slightest bit uneasy you need to squash it before it actually becomes an obsession (although it sounds like it's past that point already)

Definetely think you need to inform your supervisor. It's the company's responsibility to keep you safe while at work. They might be able to come up with a plan such as when they notice he's in the store you conveniently go on break?

 

[emo]

It could be completely harmless, but then again it may not be. I don't want to worry you but may I suggest you walk home/to your car with a friend or two (if you don't already) after work. Best to be on the safe side

 

[Dave781]

I think a lot could be read into the card. Could be the work of a genius with hidden messages or a mindless ramble with various planty words chucked in? At the end of the day it could just be his way of trying to do a nice thing, he has put a bit of work into it. I guess in this day in age though people are suspicious and probably with reason. Even if his intentions were good its still wierd the way it is written, the content, the annonoymous format. He's making you unconfortable at your place of work and this card is giving you hassle too because its not a simple message like 'have a nice christmas - hope your course is going well' its making you think about it, what it means, what it could mean and asking others what its about - thats not right.

Think the reaction to this is important. Although god knows what it should be. But depending on how you react he might do more of the same, keep going through your checkout and who knows what next. Or it might be a opportunity to hit it on the head? Thought maybe a card in reply? - Dont know what anyone else thinks about that?

Maybe like emo says could start meeting you after work each sat hun.

 

[Mr Miagi]

I didnt get any of it really. Im not a man for words or poetry, LOl!

What i do know is, he was having some trouble in a biology exam, and decided to waste away time by writing you or someone a xmas card! :laugh: Maybe i should consider taking some in to uni tommorrow....

 

[Arfie]

As others have said, he may be harmless and very shy (like me ) and it's his way of letting you know cryptically that he "likes" you, without having to build up the confidence to actually speak his desire to you.

Another thing that bothers me, is that if the above is true and he handed this card directly to you, why would he sign it as A N Other? If he had the balls to give it to you then pester you to read it, why the coyness with his name ? If I were going to write a note and hand it to you, I'd put my name on, though I suspect I would have sealed it and made sure I was out of the shop before you opened it

In the end you have to decide how you feel about it, if you are uncomfortable with the situation, you need to do something about it, either by telling him or telling your supervisors.

Good luck

Arfie

PS Boozybears has extensive experience of nutty men, you should probably chat with her *runs away*

 

[boozybears]

PS Boozybears has extensive experience of nutty men, you should probably chat with her *runs away*

Keep running mister!

Lynz.. Dave's right in that how you respond is pretty important at this time. It'll either encourage him to continue to squash it before it becomes something more. Only you know how you feel about the situation. Maybe it's the beginning of a possible love connection? But.. if you feel any uneasiness or discomfort... get some help in how to deal with it. We dont want to hear about anything bad happening to you.

 

[Lynz781]

The last thing I want is him banned (which is whats happened before when girls have had weird regulars). I really don't want him knowing I have a problem with him because I don't want enemies. But then It would be worse if I keep him thinking It's ok to be doing this. I think the only thing they can do is someone comes and lets me off but that would be so obvious. Don't know what to do. I remember one time i was closing and he walked past my checkout twice (I had already served him that day, maybe even twice) so he might know when I finish. Just want him to go away! It's just a crappy job I shouldn't have this hassle

 

[BrookeLea]

Since it's a crappy job and not worth the hassle...would you be able to find a new, better job and hopefully ditch the creepy guy in the process?

 

[Dave781]

It's just a crappy job I shouldn't have this hassle

You defo need to have a word with management or hr in asda, like your saying you cant do much yourself, he's got you trapped in a corner when your sitting on that checkout. They need to help you out and its their responsiblity to do so as your employer.

Heres a christmas card to give back to him...

 

[chishnfips]

It's just a crappy job I shouldn't have this hassle

You defo need to have a word with management or hr in asda, like your saying you cant do much yourself, he's got you trapped in a corner when your sitting on that checkout. They need to help you out and its their responsiblity to do so as your employer.

Heres a christmas card to give back to him...

brilliant,

I agree lynz, this guy may be a tad . tell the management to get him of yourt case.

 

[Lynz781]

Well I spoke to my sister about it and she reckons I should make an appointment with my manager to discuss it. A group of us finish at six so I might ask a couple of them to walk me to my car. So atleast managers will be aware of my situation, Up to them to do something about it. When he comes through on Saturday I will (most likely be crapping myself) tell him thanks for card (if he asks) but I didn't think it was appropriate. If he keeps coming through or whatever, police.

 

[morgan]

You shouldn't be scared at work. Tell your manager, they have a duty to care for their staff, especially if you are under 18. It is a sort of compliment that he likes you but it sounds a bit creepy. Nobody on here seems to think it is normal behaviour.

 

[paulioo]

Oooooooh this is a toughy.

On one hand he creeps you out but at least he is being nice about it. in a strange sort of way

If you suddenly avoid him and get managers to remove him from the store etc you could push him to do even more extreme things.

He sounds like a complete nutter. Can i ask how old he looks and how old are you?

I would definately say to him the next time you see him that your boyfriend was upset about the card, and in turn has made you upset.

Its important you tell your manager, i'd go to the highest manager (store manager etc) and tell him / her about it and how uncomfortable you feel. If they have any sense (not many managers do ) they will make sure you get into your car safely and the end of every shift.

I work in Tesco part-time and a few years ago a young girl (16 years old) who worked there was followed by a man when she was walking to work. He then followed her about the store. She immediately told the boss and there was police at the store quicker than you could say... Tesco's way better than Asda.

Anyway i hope everything turns out ok in the end. Maybe he's just lonely, but he sounds like a complete nutter.

paul

edit:
just re-read the card and the more i read it, the cleverer (sp?) this guys sounds. Very cryptic but its all based around photosynthesis, he's comparing his relationship with you to that of a plant requiring photosynthesis to live and surive.
i.e being dependant on someone or something, benefiting by being with someone, interacting with someone, only seeing them during the day, photosynthesis occurs during the day, etc.