Christmas Card

[Lynz781]

Can i ask how old he looks and how old are you?

Tesco's way better than Asda.

He looks as though he is in his late 30's maybe early 40's, baldish, plumpish, english accent. Polite and nice enough. I don't really make conversation with customers but I'm always polite and will talk to them if they initiate conversation. I suppose if i was a rude, never smiled checkout operator, this might have never happend. But the managers at asda say we have to be nice and smiley. At no point did I encourage this or want any of this. I'm 22 by the way.

Bet you its better working at tescos than asda

edit:
just re-read the card and the more i read it, the cleverer (sp?) this guys sounds. Very cryptic but its all based around photosynthesis, he's comparing his relationship with you to that of a plant requiring photosynthesis to live and surive.
i.e being dependant on someone or something, benefiting by being with someone, interacting with someone, only seeing them during the day, photosynthesis occurs during the day, etc.

Yip you realise this on a second glance. He's certainly thought about what he's written. I do not think this is a coincidence thats he's written stuff about plants and thats it. Definitely something deeper.

 

[tekknocolor]

Do you work in the gardening section or made any reference to your liking of plants or is he the one that likes the plants?

 

[paulioo]

Bet you its better working at tescos than asda

We get our fare share of nutters in as well. If you lived anywhere near Coatbridge (Scotland) Tesco's moving to a new big super duper massive 24 hour store, they took on loads of new people! Im quite sure they could take on a few ahem... Asda people...

If your seriously freaked out by him then go and say to your store manager. Thats what i'd do.

 

[Lynz781]

He knows I'm studying Biotechnology at uni. If I'd known he would do this I wouldn't have told him anything. Thats all he knows though. He did ask awhile back what my course involved and part of it is plants. He mumbled something about plants when he gave me the card on Saturday too.

 

[Pixie25]

the fact that he signed it anonymously makes me think that the message has a sinister side.

its almost like when he wrote it he was having a conversation with you in his head or he was trying so hard to get into your head or something. its really quite disturbing reading it, and it wasnt even sent to me.

if i were you i would not walk anywhere alone and show the message to the manager and inform store security and if neccessary the police.

 

[Arfie]

He looks as though he is in his late 30's maybe early 40's, baldish, plumpish, english accent. Polite and nice enough.

I'd like it known at this point, that I have an alibi

Arfie

 

[Lynz781]

He looks as though he is in his late 30's maybe early 40's, baldish, plumpish, english accent. Polite and nice enough.

I'd like it known at this point, that I have an alibi

Arfie

Hehe

 

[tekknocolor]

the fact that he signed it anonymously makes me think that the message has a sinister side.

I was thinking the same thing...

Symbiotic isn't always an equal relationship - one may benefit while the other doesn't

Yellow, in reference to plants, is a sign of disease from fungi or virus.

I didn't want to seem like I was trying to reach for something bad, but it caught me as disturbing as well.

 

[xautomaticflowersx]

I think that however you choose to handle this you will have to be careful of the way that you 'let him down' so to speak. If he's so insecure and shy that he has to write you a cryptic pseudo-love-letter-christmas-card to tell you "hey, you're nice... I like you", then he is likely to hang on every word you say to him and read real meaning into it. He obviously has a thing for word play, so he will be perceptive to the way in which you tell him things if that makes sense. Basically, be delicate about what you say and be careful not to upset him... as you said you don't want enemies and you also don't want him having some sort of episode or breakdown because you rejected him . Maybe in his mind, being 'poetic' about your interests and your course is something he sees as being very romantic.
I really sympathise - it's a weird situation to be in and if I were in your shoes I'd be feeling just as concerned as you are. I don't know... you could tell him you were flattered that he'd sent you the card and had taken an interest in your course, but you are seeing somebody.

 

[xautomaticflowersx]

I re-read the card and my interpretation is...

I believe in symbiosis etc.
He believes in true, equal love... soulmates if you like.
We photosynthesise!
We feed off each other/we are connected.
And grow? Do we not?
Asking if you feel that the 'relationship' you have with one another has grown to a point where it should be carried further.
Potential is there to do the above.
He feels that you two have a connection which he feels could 'grow' into a proper relationship.

Then the part about daisies only being open during the day... I think he's trying to tell you not to be 'blind'. To open your eyes and 'see' what's there.

Hmmm.... maybe he really does like you and just doesn't know how to express it? Or maybe he just thought that you'd appreciate the sentiment more if he presented it like that.

 

[Lynz781]

hang on every word you say to him and read real meaning into it. He obviously has a thing for word play, so he will be perceptive to the way in which you tell him things if that makes sense. Basically, be delicate about what you say and be careful not to upset him... as you said you don't want enemies and you also don't want him having some sort of episode or breakdown because you rejected him . Maybe in his mind, being 'poetic' about your interests and your course is something he sees as being very romantic.
I really sympathise - it's a weird situation to be in and if I were in your shoes I'd be feeling just as concerned as you are. I don't know... you could tell him you were flattered that he'd sent you the card and had taken an interest in your course, but you are seeing somebody.

Thats an interesting comment about him being perceptive about what I say. I'm the total opposite and rubbish with words. I could never be clever enough to produce anything like that. Trying to remember previous conversations with him. He is always getting photos developed in the shop in asda. He once showed me scenic pics from his trip up north. I also remember him showing me pics of asda trolleys and asda-things. This was years ago when I first served him and I thought he was a mystery shopper or something. It's only been this summer hes started to come through regularly. He's quite well known to some of the girls (funnily enough young pretty ones) as being the wierdo with the pics.

However I will bear in mind to be careful about what I say in future. Might have to transfer to a different department. One where I can actually walk away.

 

[BrookeLea]

Just wanted to say that when I studied abroad in London last winter...I was so happy to discover Tesco! That place was a real budget saver.

 

[Pixie25]

oh god if he's been taking photos of your work place doesnt that really worry you? if he is fixated with you he might be trying to photograph you.

all sounds very stalkerish to me.

 

[Lynz781]

It did cross my mind. Hopefully this Saturday I can tell him nicely that the card was inappropriate or whatever. And he'll leave me alone

 

[tekknocolor]

I hope everything goes alright for you Good luck!