Guess said:
http
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now that is one of the many examples of you flaming the poor guy as the 3rd post of the thread.
if you consider
that a flame then you are definitely being sensitive. that's paul being *nice* (paul,
, don't deny it) but really, i read the thing and it wasn't absolutely nasty or "burn in hell". it was a bit strongly worded, but then what isn't when you feel passionate? and its true -- you really shouldn't buy anything you
know you can't keep in a suitable environment. what that guy did was impulsive, but he was endangering both the fish and the tank if that is a known "tank-buster"
and, wrs, people not having as much money as you is directed at me and many other people at this board. mind letting 13 yr olds having a go at keeping fish? your post seemed to act overly snobbish. why can't you let kids my age go for their ambitions?
ok, (1) wrs is 17 and still lives with his parents. not that huge of a difference except in the available job market. (2) I don't think 13 year olds
should be allowed to keep huge tanks without parental supervision and involvement. a big, expensive fish is an important responsibility. if the parents don't know/care enough to provide their kid with an appropriate tank, then they are also not going to provide appropriate support for medicines, food, and back-up maintenance. you get a dog and get tired of walking it, the dog'll live. you get an arowana and get tired of vacuuming, the fish might not make it. there are some notable exceptions to this picture of irresponsibility, but
guess what -- those exceptions keep smaller, appropriately stocked and well-researched tanks.
Because they are responsible kids.
for example: 'i've been waiting 4 months to save up for an oscar and now i get it for free!' *places it in a 40g* 'tomorrow i'll get money out of my bank to buy a new tank, wait a week for fishless cycling and everything will be fine'.
paul, your post was just as stupid as wrs'. i've already read that thread. just the same as the link above.
there are MANY instances when the fish will have to endure a bit.
look, some people get lucky and some don't. them's the breaks.
what you are responding so negatively to are people being told that they're wrong, they can't keep that fish in that tank permanently. you are advocating temporary tanks, which has various levels of merit, and
grow-out tanks which most of the monster-keepers use. however, everyone i've seen who is using a grow-out and is erroneously corrected on appropriate tanks sizes doesn't get pissed about it, knows what an appropriate tank size is, and explains their particular grow-out system.
i always regard it as something of a tip-off when someone gets defensive about tank sizes; it tells me that they suspected it might be a problem but decided to ignore it to the detriment of the fish. innocent newbies get distraught and experienced keepers explain with various levels of grouchiness, but the willfully ignorant pitch a fit. hmm... who's overly-sensitive now?
bah. look at this; i got all worked up right when its bedtime for me.
I don't want to see people in this fish forum acting overly sensitive as my thread topic says. This just annoys me for example a person saying they have an oscar in a 50g but going to move it later. next poster: 'OMG WTF MOVE IT INSTANTLY YOU"RE KILLING THE POOR THING ITS GONNA DIE' before reading the whole post? This is too common in the forums yet i don't see anyone complaining about it. Is it just me who's angry about this? if there is and no one else is going to talk about it i'm going to join a different one. Just. Plain. Frustrating. 
