A Rant Thread About Assumptions/actions On Both Sides.

[Tokis-Phoenix]

ChestnutMoray55 I have in no way ever bullied you nor have I ever intended to- it’s not my thing u'know.
If I see someone with an overstocked tank I'll tell them.
If I see someone with a highly unsuitable fish/s in their tank I’ll tell them.
If someone says fish's lives aren’t worth bothering about I'll tell them they are wrong.
If someone gives out bad advice I tell them they are wrong.
Etc etc etc- you see where I am coming from?
I have nothing against you personally, in fact I have no grudges against what you do, but that doesn't mean I agree with what you do or say half the time. You may have completely lost interest in freshwater fish but I don't really see why you shouldn't try to full fill their living requirements. Anyways...I feel we will probably never agree on some things but either way I have never bullied you ever, so remember that.

I can't totally remember but I think the first time I read your posts you were boasting about the 30 odd guppy’s in your 10gal even though you stated yourself that you knew how horribly overstocked the tank was, so I can't say my first impressions of you were that great. I know you are a kid and I don't expect you to act anything more than a kid, but...You must realise that many of your comments are likely to be taken the wrong way because I can't remember the amount of times you've mentioned how you are surprised no one has had a go at you yet or how you know people have been offended before elsewhere by your controversial methods of fish keeping.

I know I am not perfect and don't try to act to and I know I can be blunt at times with the bare facts and truths and all but that’s the way I am, I am an understanding person but I’m afraid I don't attempt to sugar-up my comments as I figure that its better that way the vast majority of the time. If you are offended at my disagreements about your fish keeping methods or tank stocking then im afraid I’ve done nothing wrong and that’s your issue.
I really want to get along with you, I really do, but many of your comments could seriously be considered as flaming or trolling or whatever (or at least I have felt the need to flame at times from your comments)- either way though if you wanna turn over a clean slate now so to speak I am more than happy to as to be honest I can't be bothered with arguing and would rather get along with you and I know deep down you are a good person, if a bit stubborn (like me, like most people, its a good trait at times B) ), but im sure you have got better things to do rather than argue with me just as I feel I feel about you...So you want to just put the past and recent issues behind us and just get along, no?

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[Briarmoor]

I find that sometimes I give too much information in my posts and I think that makes people skip over some of the details, then ask me them again later. I am trying to get better about it, but I am detail oriented by nature, so it is hard not to put everything in my posts.

I try not to jump on people, but be diplomatic. There is periodic fighting on my dog email lists and I just get too mentally worn out to involve myself unless the topic is near and dear to me or someone I know is being unfairly attacked. I have enough stress at my job and things I don't have much control over to allow a list to stress me out too.

I don't reply much in the emergency section because there is always someone with more experience that has links at hand to send to the person having the problem. I do browse the section and sometimes I can add something. At this point, my dog experience is more valuable to others than my fish experience.