Thank you for the kind words, and the encouragement! Yeah, i've noticed that some people can be a little.. callous when it comes to fish-keeping (just look a few posts down from this one, yikes), so I try to be cautious. I just want to make sure the finished tank is pleasing both for me and for the life within
I think I mentioned it previously, but many (16-ish) years ago when i was young, i had a tropical fish tank (can't remember too much of it). I wasn't really sure what i was doing, and ended up taking most of my advice from a local-ish chain shop, and my folks had a 'eh, see how it goes' approach to the whole thing. I remember it lasted quite some time, but i think that was more luck than judgement. I vaguely remember a young silver shark in there towards the end, and i'm sure the tank was too small for that! In the end i think new stock brought in an illness which decimated the tank, and put me off the hobby for a long time. While i was young at the time, i know i made a lot of mistakes with that first tank, and I'm trying my best to make sure i don't make them again
Most of us have been there! I've only been keeping tanks myself for a year, but my parents always had a tank as I was growing up, and they used to have an aquatics business. I thought I was ahead of the game by learning about the nitrogen cycle, cycling my tank before adding fish, understocking and having live plants etc. But I'd heard on videos and read around, didn't really understand how pH, KH and GH interacted with each other, or how important it was to pick fish suited to your hardness. I just wanted a little guppy and shrimp tank, nothing crazy.
But my parents knowledge is about 40 years out of date, when people used to throw hard and softwater fish in together, and rarely do water changes and filter cleaning and stuff. I researched tankmates for guppies, and otocinclus were recommended everywhere, even my fish store said they'd be great in my tank since it was three months old, plenty of algae, they'd be fine with guppies and shrimp etc, so I got eight of them in the end. It was only when I came here that I learned about hardness, KH, pH etc. I'd been told not to worry about it unless keeping really sensitive fish. My water is perfect for guppies, but way too hard for otos. But since the damage done is internal, and mine appeared to be thriving over the nine months or so I had them in there, I had no idea it was harming them. Google "guppies and otos" and you'll see them recommended as tank mates in loads of places, even though their water requirements are incompatible.
I've now set up another tank, so one has the guppies and shrimp, and my hard tapwater, while the otos are in the other in softer water, but the damage has probably already been done and shortened their lifespan. I've lost two of them over the last month. Appeared healthy and well, and suddenly died with no obvious cause, so it's likely being in that hard water for so long caused mineral build up in their kidneys.
I feel awful that my mistake and the gap in my research hurt these little fish that I love a lot. But all you can do is improve as you learn. Mine have a pretty great life compared to what happens to a lot of otos, all I can do now is make their tank as perfect for them as I can, and I'll be a better oto keeper for the next ones. We've all made mistakes or had a disaster tank, especially when you were a kid! Kids can't be expected to take in everything you need to know, or research fish species and understand things like pH, KH and GH. Be kind to yourself, you're being very careful and thorough.