Rant:dead Betta

[leighann]

well i needed a place to keep my betta for a few weeks so my boyfriend happily let steve(my betta) stay at his house for a while he actually wanted to keep him too.he was put in a 5 gallon tank where i thought he would be taken care of.well a week passed and i went into my boyfriends room and saw my betta next to the window which i didn't like because it is really cold out and he normally keeps his window open my boyfriend quickly moved it and i considered it a minor mistake and let it go, well after a few weeks i kept asking my boyfriend if he was doing ok and if he was getting fed enough and all the basic needs were met. well i just went to his house yesterday night and the fish was in terrible conditions, the water hadnt been changed in days, there was no food and he was left next to the window again!!!!!!!! i was so mad i could have killed him. i made him do a water change and feed him right infront of me and said he was coming home with me tomorrow. well i just found out my betta is now dead....im seriously considering leaving my boyfriend because i am terribly upset....i made a bad mistake and should have taken him home that night but i didn't and my fish paid the price .

 

[- Jez -]

I'm so sorry dude, that sounds really upsetting and you have every right to be mad. Stupid boyfriend! Don't leave him though - when he sees how much its messed you up, I'm sure he'll be really apologetic and try to make it up to you. I love fish but I'd draw the line at letting them affect my relationship, y'know? Just don't leave him in charge of anything alive until he's learnt his lesson.

 

[liz2]

so sorry about your poor fish..

ditch the boyfriend....

 

[leighann]

no my stupid ass boyfriend is gonna have to do alot to make this up to me... i just feel responsible completely. i cant't believe hes dead

 

[modaz]

arh that is so sad and i understand why your angry but maybe you could turn it into something positive and get your boyfriend to replace your little guy and choose the most expensive one you can find, that will teach him, sit down and calmly refresh his knowledge on a bettas requirements. im sure he feels awful deep inside as he will know how much he has hurt you, between the two of you , you could improve his knowledge..............i know it sounds strange but knowledge is prevention and prevention is better than a cure....and who knows give him 12 months and you could go round to his house and find tons of well looked after betta and this would be fantastic.just a thought!

 

[Amunet]

You shouldn't feel responsible. It wasn't your fault.
How could you have known that your boyfriend wouldn't have taken care of your betta right. You trusted him and well.. HE screwed up majorly.
Don't blame yourself at all.

As for dumping him, well, that's really up to you.
So sorry for your loss though **HUGS**

 

[leighann]

honeslty thats a great idea and i understand where your coming from completely and i think in time once i get over it that would be something him and i could do together.

 

[modaz]

dont dump him.....give him the chance to make ammends first,
think back to when we have all started looking after fish and all the mistakes we made that resulted in the sad lose of fish

honeslty thats a great idea and i understand where your coming from completely and i think in time once i get over it that would be something him and i could do together.

thats it.....positive thinking......

 

[K.J.]

Well... If it were me, I'd probably dump him in an instant. However, why? I feel that if he can't care for animals, he can't care for you either... but that's just me, because if anybody wants me as their girlfriend, they are going to have to fit into my life, and my life is my animals.

 

[davidnso]

not all boyfriends are like that!

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[laurasbetta]

i'm so sorry! that's just awful!

i'm assuming that your betta was more like a kid to you than a pet, by how upset you seem to be. if your boyfriend can't take care of something that is THAT important to you, does he really care about the things that you care so much about? i mean, i gave my fish to my dad to take care of while i'm at college, and he treats walnut better than he treats me sometimes! (that fish is so darn spoiled...) i don't know. it's a hard spot you're in. just be careful not to give him too many chances. i did that with my boyfriend and he ended up just taking advantage of the fact that i'd forgive him no matter what.

 

[Jaded12]

Oh no hun, I'm so sorry!! No fish should have to suffer because of some persons ignorance and lack of responsibilty!! I hope you set things right between the 2 of you though, maybe in time he'll learn *hug*

 

[MojoDex]

gotta say if you can even think about leaving him over a fish then the relationship probly isnt worth saving at all. yes yes i know fish forum fish people but lets be fair a fish isnt a dog a betta will not show you love i know everyone is gonna get on my back for this as well! i had a girlfriend leave me over a dog and SHE looked the fool not me.

yes its sad your betta has died and i do feel for you but the fact was it was your fish and if you were so concerned maybe you should of gone round and sorted it out yourself instead of leaving a guy who obviously didnt know what he was doing to look after it?

im sorry if this all seems a bit harsh im not getting at you i promise id say the same to anyone and im not trying to be nasty i swear but its how i feel.

 

[Amunet]

gotta say if you can even think about leaving him over a fish then the relationship probly isnt worth saving at all. yes yes i know fish forum fish people but lets be fair a fish isnt a dog a betta will not show you love i know everyone is gonna get on my back for this as well! i had a girlfriend leave me over a dog and SHE looked the fool not me.

yes its sad your betta has died and i do feel for you but the fact was it was your fish and if you were so concerned maybe you should of gone round and sorted it out yourself instead of leaving a guy who obviously didnt know what he was doing to look after it?

im sorry if this all seems a bit harsh im not getting at you i promise id say the same to anyone and im not trying to be nasty i swear but its how i feel.

I'll just leave it short and sweet.... that was very rude and very uncalled for. You say you weren't trying to be nasty but that's exactly what you were... by critisizing her concern over her pet and to judge her relationship.
We've all had something like this happen before... maybe not with a pet but something where we thought we could rely on someone and they let you down.

 

[MojoDex]

gotta say if you can even think about leaving him over a fish then the relationship probly isnt worth saving at all. yes yes i know fish forum fish people but lets be fair a fish isnt a dog a betta will not show you love i know everyone is gonna get on my back for this as well! i had a girlfriend leave me over a dog and SHE looked the fool not me.

yes its sad your betta has died and i do feel for you but the fact was it was your fish and if you were so concerned maybe you should of gone round and sorted it out yourself instead of leaving a guy who obviously didnt know what he was doing to look after it?

im sorry if this all seems a bit harsh im not getting at you i promise id say the same to anyone and im not trying to be nasty i swear but its how i feel.

I'll just leave it short and sweet.... that was very rude and very uncalled for. You say you weren't trying to be nasty but that's exactly what you were... by critisizing her concern over her pet and to judge her relationship.
We've all had something like this happen before... maybe not with a pet but something where we thought we could rely on someone and they let you down.

well that your opinion and your entitled to it as im entitled to mine. you can think its rude all you want i didnt mean it that way i was mearly stating what i think. i love fish but i would never dream of putting them ahead of the people in my life if i had a gf kill a fish due to her not knowing what she was doing yes id be angry but calling off a relationship over a fish is rather drastic dont you agree?

dont tell me im judging her relationship either just because i happen to be thinking differently to other people in this thread! other people are telling her to dump him! kindly explain to me how that is different from what i said its still judging it just happens to be the type that people posting in this thread will accept where as mine is not.