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So on more optimistic note, I went on one of my long walks, and decided to take a small path/cut up a steep hill from the beach. It was two steps forward, one sliding back all the way to the top, but I found a walking trail there that had been shut by a small slide. It's a large area that used to be a gravel pit on top of the cliffs. I tracked along to the slide, then cut through some alders, onto another old path and found myself on an old road from the quarry times. The place stopped production in the 1980s.
There was a lot of old industrial machinery rusting in the alders - big stuff for rock crushing. I took a road I hoped would loop to the beach, only it ended 50 feet above the beach with a sheer drop. I enjoyed the breakers for a minute, and cut toward an unquarried pine stand. There, something glittered.
Sometimes, what glitters is gold, and I didn't want that stuff. It doesn't work in fishtanks. I wanted water, and I found a pond about an acre in size, spring fed, probably too small and shallow for fish, and ringed with undisturbed plants.
Come Spring, I'll be back there. It had the look of a perfect daphnia pond - clean, with no fish to carry parasites, and with a firm bank I can fish off. I found a small path cut through the alders by dirt bikers, leading to a place I can park, a few hundred metres from the fresh water. From the road, you would never guess there was a pond.
Everyone needs a daphnia pond!
There was a lot of old industrial machinery rusting in the alders - big stuff for rock crushing. I took a road I hoped would loop to the beach, only it ended 50 feet above the beach with a sheer drop. I enjoyed the breakers for a minute, and cut toward an unquarried pine stand. There, something glittered.
Sometimes, what glitters is gold, and I didn't want that stuff. It doesn't work in fishtanks. I wanted water, and I found a pond about an acre in size, spring fed, probably too small and shallow for fish, and ringed with undisturbed plants.
Come Spring, I'll be back there. It had the look of a perfect daphnia pond - clean, with no fish to carry parasites, and with a firm bank I can fish off. I found a small path cut through the alders by dirt bikers, leading to a place I can park, a few hundred metres from the fresh water. From the road, you would never guess there was a pond.
Everyone needs a daphnia pond!
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I think I know my issue with gaining friends...
I distance people by being too close. Anytime I have felt like I had a good friend I say too much and try too hard
In affect this causes them to want me as far from them as possible.
The reason for me being distant is the reason I need friends. This is something I legit have been thinking about the entire day and I can't get it off my mind
I distance people by being too close. Anytime I have felt like I had a good friend I say too much and try too hard
In affect this causes them to want me as far from them as possible.
The reason for me being distant is the reason I need friends. This is something I legit have been thinking about the entire day and I can't get it off my mind
FishandBirdLover
Fishaholic
That spells out my situation.I think I know my issue with gaining friends...
I distance people by being too close. Anytime I have felt like I had a good friend I say too much and try too hard
In affect this causes them to want me as far from them as possible.
The reason for me being distant is the reason I need friends. This is something I legit have been thinking about the entire day and I can't get it off my mind
Sorry...That spells out my situation.
Alice B
Fish Herder
Time will heal many things., it's hard to have friends when you're married and have kids and jobs, so enjoy the friends you can make now. I still know people from high school. When I had time. And people I've worked with, etc, but not many. And retired people make great friends, they have time to BE friends.
That's the issue. I can't enjoy friends when I almost have 0. The "friends" I do have arent really an emotional support but we do have fun conversations I suppose. I just don't want my little brother following me around EVERYWHERE while I'm talking with them... Its kinda ridiculous.
Then also sometimes its not the best conversations. They dont have the same moral standards on some things and I wish I could hang around people who support my efforts to remain morally stable, not the other way around.
By the way, the in person "friend" count at the moment is 2
Yah.... Fun.
They don't even really have the same hobbies as me. And all the stuff they do like is stuff that I wouldn't feel right getting into.
Arrange times to hang out without your brothers there. Maybe see about joining a homeschool co op and taking classes once a week to find other people your age. It’s hard to find friends when you don’t go outThat's the issue. I can't enjoy friends when I almost have 0. The "friends" I do have arent really an emotional support but we do have fun conversations I suppose. I just don't want my little brother following me around EVERYWHERE while I'm talking with them... Its kinda ridiculous.
Then also sometimes its not the best conversations. They dont have the same moral standards on some things and I wish I could hang around people who support my efforts to remain morally stable, not the other way around.
By the way, the in person "friend" count at the moment is 2
Yah.... Fun.
They don't even really have the same hobbies as me. And all the stuff they do like is stuff that I wouldn't feel right getting into.
Yup... Already tried looking for a HS co op... So did my mom. Nothing. Every HS co op is for kids way younger than me 
. I'm talking age range 5-11.
And I guess I could try hooking up to do something with them but it would be awkward... Idk what to do with them. I can't just make them do stuff I like and the stuff they do is... Well stuff I don't feel comfortable participating in.
I could ask what some of their hobbies include and get to know them better. Then fend off my brother from trying to go with and my mom when she says: "Your brother also doesn't have many friends". Which yes that is true, but while I actively talk to people (even though my anxiety is through the roof) he stands beside me and doesn't even attempt to make friends. In fact he CHOOSES not to talk to people...
Idk what "going out" is. Lol. Listen, I'm excited to go to the hardware store. Yah... Ikr... I'm actually like: "YESSSS OUT OF THE HOUSE FINALLY".
I can't get out by myself. The area we live in is tricky for a young teen like me to just go out. Everywhere is fairly far.
Basically I've been living pandemic life since... 2018?
. I'm talking age range 5-11.And I guess I could try hooking up to do something with them but it would be awkward... Idk what to do with them. I can't just make them do stuff I like and the stuff they do is... Well stuff I don't feel comfortable participating in.
I could ask what some of their hobbies include and get to know them better. Then fend off my brother from trying to go with and my mom when she says: "Your brother also doesn't have many friends". Which yes that is true, but while I actively talk to people (even though my anxiety is through the roof) he stands beside me and doesn't even attempt to make friends. In fact he CHOOSES not to talk to people...
Idk what "going out" is. Lol. Listen, I'm excited to go to the hardware store. Yah... Ikr... I'm actually like: "YESSSS OUT OF THE HOUSE FINALLY".
I can't get out by myself. The area we live in is tricky for a young teen like me to just go out. Everywhere is fairly far.
Basically I've been living pandemic life since... 2018?
Does your church have a youth group?Yup... Already tried looking for a HS co op... So did my mom. Nothing. Every HS co op is for kids way younger than me
And I guess I could try hooking up to do something with them but it would be awkward... Idk what to do with them. I can't just make them do stuff I like and the stuff they do is... Well stuff I don't feel comfortable participating in.
I could ask what some of their hobbies include and get to know them better. Then fend off my brother from trying to go with and my mom when she says: "Your brother also doesn't have many friends". Which yes that is true, but while I actively talk to people (even though my anxiety is through the roof) he stands beside me and doesn't even attempt to make friends. In fact he CHOOSES not to talk to people...
Idk what "going out" is. Lol. Listen, I'm excited to go to the hardware store. Yah... Ikr... I'm actually like: "YESSSS OUT OF THE HOUSE FINALLY".
I can't get out by myself. The area we live in is tricky for a young teen like me to just go out. Everywhere is fairly far.
Basically I've been living pandemic life since... 2018?
Or any other local churches would if yours doesn’t
I shouldn't have even brought my issues here. I'm just typing my thoughts out...
Feel kinda silly just talking about this here...
But my mom and dad would freak out if I said: "Oh so hey I was talking to this girl and-"
Honestly though I don't know if I would tell them if I had a gf... I'd be telling my gf: "Listen I love you, so because I love you and I don't want you to be traumatized, how about we do the skip meeting my family thing for a while"
Feel kinda silly just talking about this here...
No
And uhhh... No. I can't explain my reasoning for that here though really lol... But trust me when I say no.
Oh me either. Lol.Damn. I really need to go out more often. I can't seem to find a girlfriend.
But my mom and dad would freak out if I said: "Oh so hey I was talking to this girl and-"
Honestly though I don't know if I would tell them if I had a gf... I'd be telling my gf: "Listen I love you, so because I love you and I don't want you to be traumatized, how about we do the skip meeting my family thing for a while"
MoodListen I love you, so because I love you and I don't want you to be traumatized, how about we do the skip meeting my family thing for a while"
Is that what you did to your bf... "Trust me, you dont want to"
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