Bruce Leyland-Jones
Fish Aficionado
I just don't get it.
Time and time and time again, I read posts from people who say how much they love their fish, how much they really do want to do the best for their fish...
...and then subject them to all manner of abuse.
"Ooooh, but we all make mistakes."
"Oh, but I was as bad when I was starting out".
"Hey...we all have to learn".
"It's not their fault they were misinformed by x..."
"But thy really DO want what's best for their fish".
It has been made quite clear that directly questioning or challenging poor care is not approved and I feel way, way more effort is applied to the potentially hurt feelings of the fishkeeper, than those creatures slowly (or quickly) dying whilst we watch.
We provide information and it is ignored.
"Oh dear, all my fish have now died, (insert Sad emoji here)...I'm going to start again! Tell me about cycling again...etc.".
I made mistakes long ago...and I made them once and, to date, have not yet had to re-learn a lesson.
I studied hard, spent time with those who knew what they were doing and paid close attention. It took effort...a lot of effort. I take time over every aspect of fish care and consider long before I commit.
I understand why people brand new to the hobby have difficulty, (even though we have so much quality information available), but when I read about people who have, or who have had, lots of tanks? Who talk about their past losses almost as if it was a Rite of Passage and then tell us about their current 'mystery' illnesses or deaths?
Now I have to say that this is not aimed directly at @mjfromga, but the response to my expressed concern did prompt me to reflect.
People are angry at me, whilst a guppy is being dangled as potential live food?
But no...I'm wrong and I'm dismissed as being rude and hurtful.
Thinking of the many miserable stories reported in here, just how far would people get if it was a dog, or a cat, treated to a similar degree of ignorance and subsequent abuse?
I recently rescued a kitten. It was sickly and starving, but the poor wee mite is getting better.
Here's a video of him, sitting next to my American Pit Bull.
Sometimes, it feels as if 'It's ONLY a fish' is alive and well in this Forum and that saddens me deeply.
Time and time and time again, I read posts from people who say how much they love their fish, how much they really do want to do the best for their fish...
...and then subject them to all manner of abuse.
"Ooooh, but we all make mistakes."
"Oh, but I was as bad when I was starting out".
"Hey...we all have to learn".
"It's not their fault they were misinformed by x..."
"But thy really DO want what's best for their fish".
It has been made quite clear that directly questioning or challenging poor care is not approved and I feel way, way more effort is applied to the potentially hurt feelings of the fishkeeper, than those creatures slowly (or quickly) dying whilst we watch.
We provide information and it is ignored.
"Oh dear, all my fish have now died, (insert Sad emoji here)...I'm going to start again! Tell me about cycling again...etc.".
I made mistakes long ago...and I made them once and, to date, have not yet had to re-learn a lesson.
I studied hard, spent time with those who knew what they were doing and paid close attention. It took effort...a lot of effort. I take time over every aspect of fish care and consider long before I commit.
I understand why people brand new to the hobby have difficulty, (even though we have so much quality information available), but when I read about people who have, or who have had, lots of tanks? Who talk about their past losses almost as if it was a Rite of Passage and then tell us about their current 'mystery' illnesses or deaths?
Now I have to say that this is not aimed directly at @mjfromga, but the response to my expressed concern did prompt me to reflect.
People are angry at me, whilst a guppy is being dangled as potential live food?
But no...I'm wrong and I'm dismissed as being rude and hurtful.
Thinking of the many miserable stories reported in here, just how far would people get if it was a dog, or a cat, treated to a similar degree of ignorance and subsequent abuse?
I recently rescued a kitten. It was sickly and starving, but the poor wee mite is getting better.
Here's a video of him, sitting next to my American Pit Bull.
Sometimes, it feels as if 'It's ONLY a fish' is alive and well in this Forum and that saddens me deeply.