My elderly Uncle lived in a home for years. He couldn't live with us because a traumatic brain injury had caused moments of violence, but there were no incidents in his nursing home. Partly, that was meds, but it was also the skills of the staff. Amazing people doing a thankless job. I used to visit a lot and got to know a lot of people, both staff and residents. I lost a lot of friends there during the COVID pandemic - good people.
@Back in the fold I fell into the caregiver role for a couple of years when my wife had cancers, chemo, surgeries and such, through the pandemic period. What I see of you will do a good job. I'm lucky in that my wife is now probably stronger than I am, and doing well. Getting there taught me many new skills - ones you'll learn.
Fishtanks make a good outlet/escape because they keep you close to home, but engage you in something much less intense that's enjoyable. You need an outlet. It's good news with your wife, very good news, and I'm sure I haven't been alone wondering how you two were doing. That's just human solidarity, and you will do fine.
@Essjay When I was a kid in southwest Montreal, we ate minced meat, but now, for anyone under my age, it's ground beef, and mincemeat is the Christmas treat I can't eat anymore. A lot of Irish and British expressions and phrases hung on in my community as it was a working class English speaking enclave in a French speaking province. American English won out though, in the long run. We're even forgetting how to spell in Canadian English.
I'm really made aware of the differences as one of my best friends is an immigrant from northern England who hasn't adjusted linguistically after 20 years. I often have no clue what he has said. I have learned that tea is a meal, not always a drink.