Tips for dealing with stress?

[Colin_T]

I might invest in some Lego haha build a fish tank with it

That’s a joke obviously haha but I might buy some

Lego does have an aquarium, it was one of my ideas
So were white base plates and the 2 story Gingerbread House. Plus a number of others

A few people on YouTube have made Lego aquariums and they are quite good. Maybe do a search on YouTube for Lego aquariums. You and Amy can build a Lego city together.

I check the Lego.com website but usually buy from the big chain stores during school holidays when Lego is on special. It's a lot cheaper from places like Kmart, BigW, Target, etc when they have it on special. However, Lego does have special items only available from their website and you have to pay full price for them

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Blue light (6000-8000K) is also good to help make people feel better. Spending the first 30-60 minutes outside every day gives you blue light and that helps reset the body clock and stimulates the eyes and mind. If you can't get outside, have blue lights or white light globes (6500K) inside and turn them on in the morning. In the evening change to yellow lights (3000-4000K) to replicate sunset.

This applies to you and Amy.

 

[GaryE]

A major stress with all this is the sense of endlessness of it. let's be frank.
My wife reached a point after the cancers, the many surgeries and the lifesaving but brutal chemo that one doctor suggested palliative care. When she came home from her last chemo crash, she had to relearn how to walk, starting with epic journeys to the kitchen and back up the hall. She had a severely restricted diet, no stamina and no ability to do very much.
Yesterday, a year and a bit after that period, we walked 4km through hilly terrain, and the day before she did her now regular 7km walk.
Is she miraculously back to where she was? No. None of us are, and the cancer took its toll. She had to work very hard to get to this point, and she works hard to stay at it and develop it. She is alive and doing well, and is living a good quality life. There are things she has to work around, and things she can't do. It's a new normal.
You're the caregiver and that's what we look at here. I have a new normal too - I don't know how long, if ever, it'll take for me to to believe I'm not always on call. The kids grew up and I relaxed, so I guess this will follow the same sort of slow pattern.

My point?

Where you are now is not where you will always be. It is a highly stressful situation - brutally so. Take it a day at a time and let it keep changing. Positives will come out, and improvements will happen. What pace? Who knows? Meditation? If it works for you - it never would for me. Medication? If it works with the anxiety, why not? Exercise, lego, killifish, dog training (with or without pole dancing), taking courses, counselling - find activities that suit you and help keep you intact and useful through the process ahead. The situation will change, and both of you will get your lives back.

 

[FriendlyGeek]

Lego does have an aquarium, it was one of my ideas

It's a great little kit the aquarium, I posted a picture of my completed one yesterday
They are part of the 3-in-1 range where you get the one set of lego, but directions for building three different projects - the fish tank one can also be a treasue chest or an art easel if I remember rightly.
Of course you can always build your own designs because like you said, the kits can be quite expensive if they are only available on the official Lego store.

 

[Deleted member 149562]

No matter what tomorrow holds in store, you have each other to draw strength, love, humour and yes, a few tears too

This goes for both you and Amy......never ever be afraid to cry. Whether in private or together....a damned good cuddle and a cry might not cure the ills but it certainly releases the built up emotional stresses and strains

The old "stiff upper lip" is allowed to quiver and fail, no-one will ever think any less of you if you let go of those emotions and clear the brain of feelings of negativity and sheer exhaustion and feelings of helplessness in the process

Keep your yesterdays in your memories, add new memories today and when tomorrow comes never feel obliged to do all that you might plan to do.

One step at a time, at your own speed and in your own way.

Amy has an absolute gem in you, Kieran......but that doesn't mean that you should hold all your emotions, especially the anger about why this is happening, inside

Don't bottle things up, try to be strong........but don't forget to be a normal emotional human being too.

Never be afraid to let all those emotions and stress out.