I've just read through this thread as you (jag51186) asked. I can't offer much on the water/sulphur issue as I've never come across that. As this is private well water, I would take a sample in to a professional lab that does water testing and find out everything that is in it. Also, you mentioned a water softener earlier, do you know how this softens? It may or may not be OK for fish, depending.
As for substrate, I agree completely with Akasha. I use regular play sand in six of my seven tanks. The so-called plant substrates have in my experience been useless, though I would acknowledge that in a high-tech setup they might have some benefit. Play sand is good for fish, plants grow well in it, and play sand looks very natural.
On the heaters, having two good ones is very wise. Hang them at opposite ends, next to the filter intake at one end and the filter return at the other. As for the filter, the one canister is more than adequate here. As just mentioned, the intake and return should be at opposite ends lengthways, with the intake about 5 inches above the top of the sand and the return close to the surface.
The lighting I can't say much about as I have very little experience with LED. However, you do not want T5 HO fluorescent tubes, that I can assure you will be far too much light and you will have algae problems. I have tried this; on my 115g which is five feet in length I had a dual tube 48-inch T5 and after a week I took it back. Over your 4-foot tank it would be even worse. T5 works with high-tech, and marine where more light for corals is needed, but not otherwise.
I do have a comment on the light duration. A timer is best, so you have a set period of "day" (when the lights are on) and a period of total darkness (meaning, no ambient room light). Lighting is more important for fish than many realize, as light drives the circadian rhythm that all animals and plants have. You need a period of complete darkness, several hours, which obviously is best during the night after everyone is asleep. The "day" can be any time during the daylight/evening hours, when you are around to view the aquarium. My lights at present come on at 10 am and go off at 6 pm (8 hours), because I am home during the day. If I worked, I would probably have them come on at say 1 pm or 2 pm, and go off at 9 pm or 10 pm. An 8-hour "day" is usually adequate, though you may have to shorten this; one of my tanks, the 70g, is a bit shallower and to avoid nuisance algae I reduced the light by one hour, so it has 7 hours instead of 8.
The so-called "siesta" approach, where tank lights are on for say 3-4 hours, then off for 2-3, then back on for 3-4 each day can help prevent algae, but this is an issue for fish as this messes with the circadian rhythm. If algae is a problem, the solution is to find the balance between light intensity and nutrients for the plant species; once this is relatively close, the duration can be used to tweak things. This siesta idea is actually dealing with CO2, not directly with the lighting; CO2 is the macro-nutrient that usually runs out first, and once this happens, plant photosynthesis will slow and may even stop, and then algae takes advantage. CO2 naturally builds during "darkness" and it is being taken up by plants when the light is on. This is one reason why in new setups you frequently have algae issues; the CO2 is not sufficient for the plants to use during a longer duration, until sufficient organics have accumulated in the substrate. The prime source of natural CO2 in an aquarium comes from the substrate, where various bacteria break down the organics (fish waste, etc). CO2 from fish, plant and bacteria respiration is a secondary source. So it is best not to mess with the substrate, leave it alone, in most tanks.
Byron.