Row With Neighbour Over My Kids Has Left Me Fuming

[star4]

We get on with everyone in out little area and thought our neighbours were ok till yesterday she stouted at my 3 year old then came hammering on our front door. i have 2 boys 5 & 3 and they play in the garden. OK so some things have gone over the fence, a dog toy when they were playing with the dog, the little ones drinking cup (tantrum) and last week I had been sweeping the conservatory and the phone rang, I went to answer it and the little one (who is just a mischivious 3 year old) decided to help sweep up and clean the fence and the head of the broom got caught on the fence and fell off over next door. Now these neighbours have a 2 year old little girl and my boys are very confident and like to make friends with anyone and I admit they often try and talk to next doors little girl through the fence. They also have a playhouse and dispite being told off on numours occasions and receiving naughty crossing and having toys taken off them, they still climb on the roof to talk to the girl next door. This is what our neighbour has taken the hump with us for, she has accused me of neglecting to watch my boys (they are playing in their own garden, and I am usually in the living room which backs onto the garden) and they are harrassing the 2 year old!!! they are only trying to make friends. She is also "fed up" with the 5 year old shouting. I admit for the last year his behaviour has got worse, but I had a miscarrige last year and he picked up on how upset my husband and I were, then one of our dogs was diagnosed with cancer and she lost a leg and he picked up on the worry over Jodie (the dog), she died 3 weeks ago now and both the boys are grieving but the eldest has taken it really hard and he is just so angry all the time because I wont go to heaven and get his dog back (belive me if I could I would). Money has been increadibly tight because of the vet fees, so I sold one of my tanks and bought the boys a sandpit, something they have wanted for ages. She was complaining about the sand all over OUR garden, because they were so excited playing they were running in and out of the sand (should have seen the state of my house ). Now I am going to have to upset my boys by taking the playhouse away so they cannot get onto the roof and see over the fence, this is one of their favorite things as its not just a house, its a ship, rocket anything that takes their imagination, but it usually involves them sitting on the roof!!.

 

[GAB99]

We get on with everyone in out little area and thought our neighbours were ok till yesterday she stouted at my 3 year old then came hammering on our front door. i have 2 boys 5 & 3 and they play in the garden. OK so some things have gone over the fence, a dog toy when they were playing with the dog, the little ones drinking cup (tantrum) and last week I had been sweeping the conservatory and the phone rang, I went to answer it and the little one (who is just a mischivious 3 year old) decided to help sweep up and clean the fence and the head of the broom got caught on the fence and fell off over next door. Now these neighbours have a 2 year old little girl and my boys are very confident and like to make friends with anyone and I admit they often try and talk to next doors little girl through the fence. They also have a playhouse and dispite being told off on numours occasions and receiving naughty crossing and having toys taken off them, they still climb on the roof to talk to the girl next door. This is what our neighbour has taken the hump with us for, she has accused me of neglecting to watch my boys (they are playing in their own garden, and I am usually in the living room which backs onto the garden) and they are harrassing the 2 year old!!! they are only trying to make friends. She is also "fed up" with the 5 year old shouting. I admit for the last year his behaviour has got worse, but I had a miscarrige last year and he picked up on how upset my husband and I were, then one of our dogs was diagnosed with cancer and she lost a leg and he picked up on the worry over Jodie (the dog), she died 3 weeks ago now and both the boys are grieving but the eldest has taken it really hard and he is just so angry all the time because I wont go to heaven and get his dog back (belive me if I could I would). Money has been increadibly tight because of the vet fees, so I sold one of my tanks and bought the boys a sandpit, something they have wanted for ages. She was complaining about the sand all over OUR garden, because they were so excited playing they were running in and out of the sand (should have seen the state of my house ). Now I am going to have to upset my boys by taking the playhouse away so they cannot get onto the roof and see over the fence, this is one of their favorite things as its not just a house, its a ship, rocket anything that takes their imagination, but it usually involves them sitting on the roof!!.

i say your neighbor (like my old one get to that later) she should ask her daughter if shes bothered by it oterwise it wouldnt be harassment.

my neighbor.... was racist and she was awful she only wailed on us for the bird and for our dogs (though they do bark a bit i have never heard of a dog that doesnt,including hers) and our other neighbors did not hear or card about the bird just her, some peoplereally need to tone down the stupidity meter these days lol

 

[walkers101]

Tell her to mind her own kids will be kids its not a crime

 

[BethK]

Just move the playhouse away from the fence. End of the day, it's your property and your neighbor has no say or right, as your boys are not over her side of the fence.

 

[star4]

This is what I dont understand, why she doesnt like my boys talking to her little girl? but saying that she doesnt like the people's kids the other side of her talking to her daughter either. Poor little thing gets shoved into playgroups and palmed off to her grandmother all the time. We have moved the playhouse, but they just shove it back again

 

[seffieuk]

Sounds like normal childhood behaviour to me. It's such a shame when people try to rob children of being children and that is exactly what this sounds like

If things go over the fence, just consider them lost rather than asking for them back and if they complain again be very polite (which I am sure you are already) but firm and assertive, your garden, is your garden, your children are your children, you will bring them up the way you choose..............

Don't let them spoil the summer for you or yours

Seffie x

 

[minxfishy]

Oh please, I know your boys and they are good kids, sure like all boys they can get over excited, but frankly they have done nothing wrong, just ignore the stupid woman and dont let it ruin the boys fun. Wait til I bring my little one over next time and then let her deal with all 3 of them running riot

 

[seffieuk]

Oh please, I know your boys and they are good kids, sure like all boys they can get over excited, but frankly they have done nothing wrong, just ignore the stupid woman and dont let it ruin the boys fun. Wait til I bring my little one over next time and then let her deal with all 3 of them running riot

Let the fun begin!

Seffie x

 

[star4]

I dont ask for the things back, my boys know if it goes over the fence its lost. I cant explain that to the dopy german shepherd who loves throwing toy ropes etc around the garden, she loves shaking toys like that and unfortunately lets go and they go flying.

Minxy little man is welcome anytime to run riot I think my friend from Stoke is due a visit with the 4 girls too.

Feel a bit calmer now, thanks everyone

 

[seffieuk]

seven kids standing on the play house roof!!!! Can you get the dog up there to

Seffie x

 

[BethK]

Want me to bring my son over, He's autistic and has the speed and ability of a monkey. He would jump from that roof into her garden, possibly bite her, if she gets arsy with him and he will defo wreck the garden................believe me, my garden looks like a desert

 

[Tolak]

Glad to hear your boys are just being boys, I wouldn't change a thing. Between my kids growing up & the neighbor's kids growing up odd objects appearing in the yard was pretty normal. I'd just toss it to the side it was closest to, right over the fence, hoping it belongs on that side. Them coming over the fence for a variety of things was an every day occurrence, they understood to leave the gates closed & latched, I don't like having to chase dogs around the neighborhood.

The kids are older now, though we do have new neighbors to the east, the occasional dog toy shows up, and gets tossed back over. Having a high school behind my house at times some interesting things show up, usually plastic bottles, chip bags, that sort of thing, free toys for my dogs. I do have to wonder about the large pork tenderloin wrapper that was in the yard a few months back, kid must have been really hungry.

seven kids standing on the play house roof!!!! Can you get the dog up there to

Seffie x

For me that would be a goal of mine. I've never worried much about what the neighbors think of me, what I do, or how I live my life. Sounds like you are doing a fine job with those boys, neighbor should be glad they aren't teenagers yet. Sounds to me like your neighbor needs to get a handle on common socialization skills, your boys are working on it, perhaps she can learn from them.

 

[star4]

seven kids standing on the play house roof!!!! Can you get the dog up there to

Seffie x

I am sure she would if they called her, they get her on the trampolene Beth yes do bring your little man over too, he sounds just like my little one, I swear he must have gibbon in his blood somewhere he can climb anything.

 

[england]

Has she a other half? jesh tell her to go meet some nice friends

Try inviting her around so the children can play, say something sarcastic like "i love how children dont care who they want to play with and enjoy friendships without complaining, I think people should take a leaf out of childrens books

If that does not work they "raise the roof" on the childrens playhouse and build a nice big helter skelter which ends up where there feet bash into the fence

 

[GAB99]

Sounds like normal childhood behaviour to me. It's such a shame when people try to rob children of being children and that is exactly what this sounds like

lol tell me about it...

yeah my post kinda aggrees with everyone else but maybe theres legitimatly something wrong with her if she doesnt let any other kids talk to her daughter...

and nelly youd think shed do that but theres a little un running about