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@kribensis12 has said it as well as I could, and that is exactly the issue...the tank size is crucial, and the development of the fish from juvenile to maturity factors in.
I have seen tanks of this species in this or that store, and if one takes the time to observe quietly (not easy in a store, but sitting/standing observing the tank for 15-20 minutes) the males will continually challenge each other, but charging, rarely more; this is because they are flexing their inherent traits, and they are crowded in the small tank space so things do not usually play out as they would in the habitat. However, acquire the fish and put them into the proper environment and they should then develop properly according to the species' genetic programming.
In 2008 I acquired a beautiful male Bolivian, and housed it in my 5-foot long 115g Amazon Riverscape tank, and after a couple years I acquired a very fine looking female. I did not know the issues back then, and I introduced the female to the tank. The two obviously interacted, and spawned four times. Then the male killed her. Looking back with the value of acquired knowledge and hindsight, there were clear signs all along that things were not going smoothly, and the male finally had had enough of her. That 5-foot tank was "his" space as the sole cichlid, and in spite of being very heavily planted, it could not provide protection for the female from the wrath of the male. I didn't try again, and the male lived into his tenth year, which I consider is good for a fish having a normal tank lifespan of 4-5, maybe 6 years. There were signs throughout that the other fish (various tetras and cories) clearly accepted the Bolivian as the lord and master of the tank. That is the inherent nature of the species, and neither I nor any other aquarist will ever succeed in changing the genetics.
I will take a look at the SF profile and see if changes are warranted or not.