How Can We Stop The Flaming?

[SLC Flyfishing]

I was just wondering after eading the recent topic about the general decline in friendliness here on the forum (which I agree with wholeheartedly by the way) what can we do to bring a spirit of cooperation and helpfulness back to the forum? I for one am tired of it and wish for people to get along.

SLC

 

[Jules H-T]

I can see no other outcome to this thread than ill feeling, discontent, and arguments.

Perhaps we should let sleeping dogs lie and together look forward rather than back.

 

[andywg]

Oooh, Rex has found a trolling thread again!

Good boy, Rex!

 

[Gankutsuou]

I agree with Juels. My fourms already brought up far much more disruption than I could have forseen. This one would strike the belly of the beast rather than knocking it on the head. There's no need to raise this up. I may have recieved some bad ones, and my topic may have gone the wrong way, but this one is pretty much sure to bring out finger pointing ect.

Let's just close this and get on. We're trying to promote a friendly place. My post was to get past some troubles and try to work out a general problem for both the newbies and the oldies, not to point out specific examples. Specific examples can only spell t-r-o-u-b-l-e.

 

[dwarfgourami]

I can't say I've seen anything on this or any other fishforum that even remotely compares with the sort of thing that goes on in the academic world. You don't want to meet me in seminar, folks

edit: note that this was in answer to the original title of the thread- I don't want to suggest that we should not each and individually try to address the problem. Big group hug!

 

[SLC Flyfishing]

Yes I guess you are right, this will only cause fighting. I'll change the thread and make sure to change the title. I just want to make sure that people think twice before being rude and harsh to others, there's never I repeat never any reason for it on an online forum where our actions truly don't affect the lives of others.

SLC

 

[OohFeeshy]

Oooh, Rex has found a trolling thread again!

Good boy, Rex!

I thought he was called Rover... Oh well, he can have a nice juicy bone anyway.

 

[Joviella]

I tend not to get involved with arguments online, heaven knows theres enough things to deal with in real life!!
Can I just suggest that people let anything that "upsets" them go ignored,or deal with it in pm form.This,to me,seems like the only way to keep the forums "friendly".
Why there ever needs to be flaming threads is beyond me!!

 

[Pufferpro]

Report mambers who do it! then hopefully if they don't get it under controll they will be banned!

 

[wuvmybetta]

Report mambers who do it! then hopefully if they don't get it under controll they will be banned!

Honestly, I don't know what all of this is about. I read a lot of threads here daily and it seems to me that 98% of them have a genuine friendly feel to them. I've said it before and I'll say it again- You can't force people to get along over each and every subject. People are people and they have different ideas,personalities, feelings, and opinions. They will eventually find something they don't agree on. There's no way that one can step out from behind their computer and into a room filled with, let's say 5,000 people, and agree (or like) each and every one of them. It's the same being online, you're just not face to face with them. Some people are jerks, some are rude, some are far too kind and some easily upset. Such is life.

I noticed the thread in TCC, I read it last night, and it seems the majority of folks found the forum very friendly in the beginning of their time here. What makes it different now? Because it's not any different- it's only larger. And perhaps over time you run into folks that you did not see in the beginning, but they were here just the same.

Overall, I don't think you'll find a friendlier forum on the net. And at times I have argued that perhaps we are too friendly. It seems people cannot even have a cross word spoken to them without feeling they are being 'attacked'. Sometimes people really deserve to be ripped a new one, but that's not what TFF is about and I have found that overall information is usually delivered in a friendly manner.

 

[SLC Flyfishing]

Look all I'm trying to get at is that there are plenty of instances out there where aggression is not warranted. I agree that not everyone is going to get along and would never expect it but is seems to me like it's still a problem for a lot of users, advice is held back and insults and demands are given in their its place! I've not had this happen to me but have read it happening to others quite a bit lately and feel that it is detrimental to the forums image and to the fish at stake.

SLC

P.S. no matter how you slice it mean spiritedness never gets as far with people as does sincere helpful advice. No not everyone has the ideal setup for their fish but they have the fish nonthesame and we should all be invested in helping them make the most of the situation. In the longrun it will cause most to become interested in taking proper care of their fish and getting the maximum amount of enjoyment out of the hobby. Rather than turning away from the forum and getting all their advice from the attendant at walmart or petco!

I don't expect the mods to make rules about what can and can't be said on the forum which is why I didn't post here in suggestions in the first place, I just wanted a spot where the maximum amount of readers would see it and think about it, that's all and that's why I suggested originally stating examples, so there could be none of this denying that it goes on. Don't get me wrong, I know this is a good forum but there are a few members who feel it is their duty to scrutinize the tanks of every member who posts and only offer advice to those who pass their judgement. Then flame the rest out of the forum.

 

[wuvmybetta]

but there are a few members who feel it is their duty to scrutinize the tanks of every member who posts and only offer advice to those who pass their judgement. Then flame the rest out of the forum.

So, in turn, it's better to 'flame' the forum as a whole because of those few people. I see.

I guess I'm out of the loop because I really see no problem here. And I also feel it unnecessary to even talk about this 'problem', if that's what it is. I can tell you this much- I don't see an even friendlier TFF in the future because we're at our max capacity for niceness, imo. But just for kicks, let's hear some ideas on how the staff could go about enforcing an even friendlier atmosphere. What needs to change? What, exactly, are we (TFF as a whole) expected to do.

* I joined nearly four years ago and to me the forum seemed hardcore and nearly scary, with just a few hundred members! As far as people judging others and pointing out the errors of their ways (harshly, or not) it doesn't seemed to have changed to me I was chewed out for having balas in a thirty gallon, and rightly so! Tough love, if you will.

 

[black angel]

When I first joined i was chewed up for giving any advice but i stuck with it and kept going.
I can honestly say the forum is better now for friendliness than ever and I dont see anything too bad going on.
Of course you get the numpties that need a swift kick but I reckon everyone on here has at some point or other whether here or on another forum. Its life, get over it and if something bothers you that much then pm a mod to take a look.
I thought there was someone appointed to sort out problems?

 

[Bignose]

I just wanted to say I am very happy to see a moderator in at least one of these threads. Thanks, wuv for chiming in.

 

[WILDER]

I agree with black angel its not to bad, some sites are far worse, hardier to be nice than aggressive.