A healthy goni (regardless of type) will extend out of it's skeleton and the flesh around the polyps will swell, be it by 5mm or 5cm this is how goni's are. Unfortantly most specimens we see are not healthy.
You are right in saying that some types don't expand as much, but, if you can see the skeleton to that degree the coral is in decline.
I have kept (and keep) a few varieties of goni now and a there is a few things I have found (I think) in my ventures -
Greens tend to do better then others, why? I don't know so don't ask
The bigger the colony the better it's chances, I believe this is down to the starvation factor, untill enough food is present a larger coral has more to waste away before it croaks.
They don't need (or always enjoy) intense light - somewhere slightly shaded with random flows is perfect for them.
They really do need the odd feed.
Edit- alveopora (goni's cousin) is similar but the only the polyp leaves the skeleton, no connective flesh it's also known as a flower pot coral, maybe it's this your thinking of buddy?