HELP Please. Need Advise/opinions

[Bloo]

I agree wholeheartedly with Falconstorm and SRC. I'd also like to add that we do not know the exact nature of the conversation(s). Unless quoted directly from an email conversation - the slightest omission or addition of a word "quoted" can make the world of difference. Unless we know the full extent of the situation and the true nature thereof - we cannot judge anything for that matter.

 

[ManyFISH4Me]

*UPDATE*
This actually took place last night, but I had to go to bed. Since so many have responded, I figured It needed an update. After posting this, I got an email from the sellers husband. He told me that his wife felt that she had no choice, but to clull him, and that was very upset doing so. He told that in addition to the move, they had a 4 month old, who was going in for surgery today. So his wife could not take the chance in getting everyone elses fish sick, and just could not nurse this fish. He then said, I did not have to go through with buying the other fish, and they would not hold it against me.

Although, I still feel that I should have been consulted, I can understand the stress she must feel. Looking in on the situation, I can say, that shipping him to me sick, at least would have given him a chance. I don't know what decision I would have made IN THE SAME SITUATION.

I personally have not had to put a fish down, and don't know if I could. Some of you may think it is cruel, but I would fight until the fish's last breath. I tend to hold on to the hope, that as long as it is still breathing, there is a chance.

I did pay for the other fish, and got word that they went out today. I should have them tomorrow. I have been having lots of trouble with my computer, and don't know if I will be able to post pics. If I have to, I'll try to at least link to the auction pages, of the ones I won.

 

[cynqueen]

So sorry about this ... he really was a beautiful boy!!!

 

[ManyFISH4Me]

So sorry about this ... he really was a beautiful boy!!!

Yes, he was. I did ask if she could at least sent the female. Maybe they shared some genes, and finding her a mate, would give me some babies tha look like him.
I will find out tomorrow if she did.

 

[Synirr]

Reading this thread honestly gets me very upset; not because the fish died, although that is very sad and unfortunate, but because so many people seem completely unable to step into someone else's shoes for even a moment and consider the possibility that things aren't as cut-and-dry as they seem.
I mean hello, this is a betta breeder we're talking about. This isn't someone who keeps them in cups they can barely turn around in, this isn't someone who raises them in horrible dirty conditions... and as we've seen, this is someone with enough empathy to understand when a fish is suffering and enough courage to make the right decision on what to do about it.
I agree that maybe she should have consulted ManyFISH4Me first, but since she is moving and apparently has a lot of other stressors right now, she did not have the time to bring that fish back to state that he could survive shipping in. The cruelest thing I can think of would be forcing a fish to go through that when it is already ill. In this case, I honestly think that euthanasia was the most compassionate decision that could have been reached.

 

[FalconStorm]

I agree with synirr. I am glad she did not ship that fish. The fish cannot understand that it is being sent to help. All it knows is the suffering and shock of transit. I suppose that wanting to hold on to the last breath is an exercise in hope, but there comes a point that it is just cruel. Unlike humans, a fish cannot understand that we are trying to help, whether it's with medication or by shipping to a new home. There are no painkillers for fish. Sometimes, euthanasia is the most humane way to handle things.

I'm not saying that fish should not be treated for illness, but sometimes, just letting them go is the kindest thing to do. The same is true for other pets, and even certain circumstances for humans. It's quality and not quantity that counts.

 

[yeeviabetta]

My cross red chilli hm with copper crowntail might look like that too and the colors. LOL Have to wait until 1 1/2 month and then you decide.