Elitism

[Esfa]

I'm getting fed up with the elitism on this forum. Just because you have a big fish/tank or a high post count, doesn't mean that you can be rude to other members, or treat them like idiots. Tbh, it just means you have more money/space/time available =]

Nothing special about that, so get over yourselves.

Thanks.

 

[madgap]

Makin a mental note. oO(14th November is now the day when we open our hearts to what truely bothers us about the forum. )Oo
I quite agree, Esfa. But then, some might argue that it is all they spend their money on. Where as some people have more than the one interest that costs us money.

 

[Esfa]

But just because it's your only hobby, it doesn't mean that you can treat other people in the hobby badly.

 

[madgap]

Like I said, I totally agree.
You see it in all walks of life. But have you noticed that you get the odd few people that have the biggest and the best, in whatever hobby. And these few, rare few, are so genuine and humble, that spending five minutes with them just makes your day.

 

[andywg]

Toys:

Pram:

Note that the two are no longer in the same location...

 

[omega59]

i say it's whatever you need not WANT, people are too much somtimes and forget that they do not need most of the crap they have or buy.

 

[Tolak]

Wow, it must be rude post season across the internet, as I posted a response last night to a similar topic in a dog forum. Have a little copy & paste, it applies here as well;

I am nowhere near perfect, or all knowing when it comes to dogs. I do know that the folks that are judgemental to the point of being militant are many times just throwing a smokescreen for what they don't know. The truely knowledgable gurus in any subject can teach you what you may be doing wrong, in a non-judgemental way, and present it several ways if you are having a difficult time understanding. They know that making you comfortable with the information they present is more likely to end up with you using that info to your advantage. They know how to create a win/win situation, and are confident enough in their knowledge and ability that they don't feel the need at all to stuff their opinion down your throat.

When I see a response such as those that are upsetting you I stop, and think that the person responding is probably just past the rookie stage in the topic, and can not convey a reasonable response without trying to boost themselves past the level of knowledge they are at. They are often repeating information they have heard or read, and usually don't actually have much hands on experience on the topic at all.



If you think anyone is out of line, hit the report button, and it will be looked into.

 

[kribensis12]

I completely agree with Tolak. I am 14 and i am constantly "pretending i know more than i do about a subject" becasue people get angry and try to tell you are wrong, most people will admit that they are wrong, but when poepl are basically yelling al you, you really have no choice but to "pretend you know more than you.

 

[ICEEGRL]

We all know that this is the problem...
What we don't know is how to make it stop!

On here you have 2 choices most of the time.
1) avoid it by staying away. (Then you can't help anyone or get help)
2) stay (and end up tangled up in the drama)

I don't care much for either option, but I don't see any one with a workable solution...
I would love to see the attitudes get nicer, but all I see is them getting worse. (and nothing being done about it)

Maybe some of our Mods could get an attitude with those with attitudes...

 

[Esfa]

Maybe some of our Mods could get an attitude with those with attitudes...

I agree. Do we have a warning system on here? Maybe if you are caught being rude/disrespectful a number of times, then you could get a warning. If you are caught again you get suspended. Again, and you're banned?

 

[cheesy feet]

You get suspended 2x and on the 3rd banned if I am rite?I've got one more chance, both times I shouldn't of got suspended imo , meh.
I've seen some people disagree with people, with a very high post count and good knowledge, probably just out of not wanting to be wrong.

 

[andywg]

In addition to the points made by Tolak, one must always remember the internet is a typed medium and one where we are not best practiced at getting tone and inflection across. As a result of this many posts which are just blunt and factual can come across as terse and confrontational.

In an ideal world we would all (posters and readers) take time to consider how the words can be interpreted. In reality we should all just remember these are the ramblings of some cyber-fish-geek

Some people will always seem to have preferential treatment. Maybe they are, maybe they aren't. Maybe you are imagining it, maybe you aren't. Don't let it get to you, life is too short.

 

[ICEEGRL]

This is true, and life is too short.
I was talking about the ones that show a pattern of rudeness or go out of their way to be rude. There are a few of those, and we all know it. (rude way more than nice...)

 

[Teelie]

There are always going to be rude and inconsiderate people on forums and people who have bad days but are otherwise decent. Sometimes you just have to deal with it and grow a thicker skin or else move on. I've left a lot of boards in my time because the quality of the posts degraded into petty bickering or whining at the admin/mod staff to do something about so and so or throwing fits because someone wasn't punished for something someone else found offensive.

 

[steelhealr]

fo·rum (fôrm, fr-)
n. pl. fo·rums also fo·ra (fôr, fr)
1.
a. The public square or marketplace of an ancient Roman city that was the assembly place for judicial activity and public business.
b. A public meeting place for open discussion.
c. A medium of open discussion or voicing of ideas, such as a newspaper or a radio or television program.
2. A public meeting or presentation involving a discussion usually among experts and often including audience participation.
3. A court of law; a tribunal.

We frequently read complaints from members here about rude responses to posted questions and, as above, faux elitism. Remember, this is a place to collectively gather and share our experience to enjoy our hobby.

On the one hand, this place can be very similar to the school bus we grew up on.....it can be a tough place. However, we should all be able to take a little constructive criticism from time to time (sheesh...I know..ask my buddy andywg).

HOWEVER....NONE OF US HERE ON THE MOD CREW WILL TOLERATE DISRESPECT TO OTHER MEMBERS OR A HAUGHTY "BETTER THAN THOU" ATTITUDE. I hope everyone here can take a little 'tushy warming' from time to time, but, PLEASE...if you see any member be intimidate or using foul language or treating another member with disrespect, notify ANY ONE OF US. We all take it seriously....we love our forum...and we want to keep you here.

SH