whacky said:
But i do have a quick question for anna. As experienced hobbyists we have in my opinion an obligation to help the less experienced fishkeepers out there. As you no doubt were i was shocked when i read that two healthy fish were flushed away. But rather than say i dont like what you did so im not gonna help you. I think a what you did was wrong but still help the guy out is in order. Dont you?? After all we were all beginners once!!
Hi,
Firstly, I didn't say I wouldn't help James. I said I wouldn't help him until I was convinced he realised his fish are living creatures and treated them accordingly. Unless someone actually
cares you can give them all the advice in the world and it won't do any good.
James' behaviour since appears to indicate he has learned his lesson, which is very encouraging. However, I find people don't take advice well from someone who's just criticised them, so I was letting others fulfil that role.
Secondly, I was shocked and I saw no reason to hide that fact. I tend to say what I think and I'm afraid I'm not good at doing otherwise. OTOH, you have to admit it go the message home.
Lastly, being a beginner and being young are no excuse. I was caring for animals on my own as young as 7, pets and wild rescue animals. If I got an animal I knew nothing about, I went down the library and found out. What ever kind of creature a person wants to get, I think it should be a rule that they read at least two books on that creature before setting foot in a pet shop. Otherwise, they can be exploited and conned, as James appears to have been, and animals suffer as a result.
James has done one major thing right - he got help. If he is patient, and reads and learns, I think he will get a lot out of this hobby.