Believe me, there's enough frustration on my end for both of us.
Most of these details are clear, but I think there are a few subtle things that I missed.
TwoTankAmin said:
OK Mac I am going to get a bit miffed with you here. The cycling directions on this site as well as the directions on Dr. tim's site for cycling and using bottled bacteria are both very clear on a few things.
1. Low pH can stall a cycle.
2. Low KH can stall a cycle ( i.e. soft water).
3. Too much ammonia or nitrite can stall a cycle or kill bacteria.
4. Ammonia detoxifiers will slow a cycle (Prime has these too).
5. Overdosing dechlors with ammonia/nitrite/nitrate detoxifiers will slow a cycle esp when overdosed.
regarding your points above:
1- My PH has never dropped below 8.0. It measures 8.2 coming from the water softenter and 8.0 from the un-softened tap.
2- My KH has always measured high (196) coming out of the water softener. However, my GH was so low, that it was impossible to measure with my kit. In any case, this was my truly bone-headed mistake for using my soft water. I think this has caused most of my problems.
3- My ammonia has never gone over 3.0 ppm, and my nitrite has never gone over 2.5 until just today.
4- I never realized my water conditioner was also de-toxifying ammonia until just recently. The front label shows that it treats "chlorine and chloramine" and that's it. The back label has some really tiny fine print at the bottom which mentions detoxifying ammonia, which I never noticed until now.
5- I don't believe I ever overdosed with dechlor, but I did not always let it sit for 24 hours. Apparently this is OK for dechlors which do not detoxify ammonia, but not for mine. Are you suggesting that by not letting it sit for 24 hours, then I've "overdosed"? Its possible I guess.
The Dr Tim's site doesn't seem to mention hard/vs soft water, but the guide on this forum is clear that KH should be above 55 ppm, and I had that coming out of the water softener. Still, when I switched to my hard water, my cycle seemed to start up again.
On the bright side, no fish have been harmed, and that's the beauty of the fishless cycle, beginners like me can make mistakes. My cycle appears to be progressing now, so I'm sure I'll get there eventually, thanks to all your help.