So....how Accepting Are Your Spouses/family About Your Hobby?
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Jamepsss
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My other half is fine with it as she gets two nice tanks in the house and I do all the work. She sometimes has to shout at me if we're watching a film or something as I'm always staring at the tank and not the tele.
My mates think it's a bit strange but until you've been bitten by the bug you can never understand. They don't pay much attention to my tanks when they come round which is a bit annoying. They just ask stupid questions and suggest ridiculous fish to add.
My mates think it's a bit strange but until you've been bitten by the bug you can never understand. They don't pay much attention to my tanks when they come round which is a bit annoying. They just ask stupid questions and suggest ridiculous fish to add.
Mammabe1
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It's funny because I too stare at the tanks sometimes and he just doesn't get it. If he can't find me he will yell : QUIT STARING AT THE FISH!
It's funny because usually that's what I am doing! haha. I have 4 tanks and kind of rolls his eyes to that too - How many do you need? haha.
I always answer, a few more would be good..... haha
It's funny because usually that's what I am doing! haha. I have 4 tanks and kind of rolls his eyes to that too - How many do you need? haha.
I always answer, a few more would be good..... haha
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Jenste
Resurrecting the Passion of Fishkeeping
My husband is ok - - he knows I absolutely love my tanks but every now and then he puts his foot down about me wanting another (whether tank/frog/species). . . lucky for me his mother (my mother in law) has fallen in love with frogs ever since adopting a few of my babies - So I have her on my side and she sometimes helps me win!
Little negotiations help . . . like, OK - - I wanted to continue breeding but he didn't want me to spend more money on breeding/rearing tanks that we may not have room for down the road - - solution? Ok, I will use 30 gallon storage bins that can be drained, dried off, and stacked when needed!
He has helped me out a few times, but mostly stays uninvolved, which is what he prefers. The times he helped were right after my fall - - he helped me do a waterchange once because I couldn't lift the bucket. Not even halfway done he is cursing and two days later he gave me a 50 foot python (water change hose!!) Another time was helping me with a frog who went on an adventure when I wasn't home - - he caught the frog, put it in shallow water like he knew to do and added "some" dechlorinator. Then he called freaking out because the frog had been on the floor and he had to touch it and didn't know what else to do.
Little negotiations help . . . like, OK - - I wanted to continue breeding but he didn't want me to spend more money on breeding/rearing tanks that we may not have room for down the road - - solution? Ok, I will use 30 gallon storage bins that can be drained, dried off, and stacked when needed!
He has helped me out a few times, but mostly stays uninvolved, which is what he prefers. The times he helped were right after my fall - - he helped me do a waterchange once because I couldn't lift the bucket. Not even halfway done he is cursing and two days later he gave me a 50 foot python (water change hose!!) Another time was helping me with a frog who went on an adventure when I wasn't home - - he caught the frog, put it in shallow water like he knew to do and added "some" dechlorinator. Then he called freaking out because the frog had been on the floor and he had to touch it and didn't know what else to do.
james_fish
Chuck, Leader Of Ze People.
My old man likes my main fish tank, and lets me know when it's looking good or looks like it could be improved. He doesn't give me any help with it as I don't need, want or expect any. My brother is in the hobby, Salty and Tang Cichlids. His main tank is twice the size of mine and is great. We lend equipment and stuff off each other every so often and make trips to our local LFS'S
James.
James.
My wife gets a bit irritable when i start obsessing about my tank, but i don't do that ALL the time and she does enjoy how the tank looks as part of the lounge. So basically it is tolerated
coldcazzie
Ice Queen
The man-wife accepts my hobby, lets me buy things, calls me when I'm getting obsessive about it, helps me pick out fish that are pretty, even buys me fish when I'm feeling down he is basically the anchor that stops me going completely OTT about it 
we have an agreement - 1 tank = 1 motorbike. Now bearing in mind, I've only had 2 tanks running since I started this hobby 7 years ago, and he's had... 5 bikes in the same amount of time... I think that entitles me to another 3 tanks! he reckons it's "at the same time" which is a new clause that was not mentioned at first... we are still in jestful negotiations about this, but he has accepted that there will be a tank in our room, and another tank in the living room in the next year.
My parents/sister are accepting as well, they ask the right questions and are appropriately interested, friends are mostly the same, of my best friends: 1 couple has a pond, 1 has a 4 foot tank, 1 has a tiny tank, 1 is clueless (bless him), and I also have less close friends that are also slightly fish crazy, so I guess I'm lucky.
he is basically the anchor that stops me going completely OTT about it we have an agreement - 1 tank = 1 motorbike. Now bearing in mind, I've only had 2 tanks running since I started this hobby 7 years ago, and he's had... 5 bikes in the same amount of time... I think that entitles me to another 3 tanks! he reckons it's "at the same time" which is a new clause that was not mentioned at first... we are still in jestful negotiations about this, but he has accepted that there will be a tank in our room, and another tank in the living room in the next year.My parents/sister are accepting as well, they ask the right questions and are appropriately interested, friends are mostly the same, of my best friends: 1 couple has a pond, 1 has a 4 foot tank, 1 has a tiny tank, 1 is clueless (bless him), and I also have less close friends that are also slightly fish crazy, so I guess I'm lucky.
Nuke
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As excited as I am – but why would i share owernship everything mine is theirs too
KezJona
Fish Fanatic
My boyfriend is accepting and lends a helpIng hand every now and then. He can't wait to choose the fish he likes, but I have to explain everything I have learnt to him and put him down a peg
He knows not to touch te tank though, and if he did it would be more than his life is worth - well trained
D
He knows not to touch te tank though, and if he did it would be more than his life is worth - well trained
D
I don't have an SO, so that makes things nice and easy!
Of my children; the eldest lad is indifferent; my 14 yo boy is very keen; and knowledgable, but still a bit lacking in self confidence, my six year old likes them to look at and feed and she likes to know everything's names (the Latin ones too!) but finds water changes 'too soggy' (
) and tends to stay out of the way...
Of my children; the eldest lad is indifferent; my 14 yo boy is very keen; and knowledgable, but still a bit lacking in self confidence, my six year old likes them to look at and feed and she likes to know everything's names (the Latin ones too!) but finds water changes 'too soggy' (
) and tends to stay out of the way...
of my best friends: 1 couple has a pond, 1 has a 4 foot tank, 1 has a tiny tank, 1 is clueless (bless him), and I also have less close friends that are also slightly fish crazy, so I guess I'm lucky.
lucky you......not one single person I know keeps fish, no matter how often I tell them to get a tank.
Probably just as well, really; my mum, cousin and best mate all keep fish, but only my best mate keeps them anywhere near to the standards I wouldof my best friends: 1 couple has a pond, 1 has a 4 foot tank, 1 has a tiny tank, 1 is clueless (bless him), and I also have less close friends that are also slightly fish crazy, so I guess I'm lucky.
lucky you......not one single person I know keeps fish, no matter how often I tell them to get a tank.
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