Thanks ramesses, dwarfs and Amber!
Just a bit of an update, they're doing fine. I was gone for a week on vacation (Connecticut actually!) from last Friday to tonight and had someone feed them on Sunday, but that was it til today and all my fish are doing fine
The male ram did come out and eat much more willingly today - I'd be hungry after that long without food too!
I do not have sinking food right now, but it's on the list for when I go to the lfs tomorrow.