Proper Etiquette/good Manners

[M_J]

I've no idea, but I automatically take them off and sometimes get told to put them back on!

 

[Caprichoso]

I've no idea, but I automatically take them off and sometimes get told to put them back on!

Do you have smelly feet?

 

[Ace Of Spades]

yes, I believe in good manners, raised the kids to have them too, seems to be not very common looking around though!

I remember walking through town one day with my middle son, an elderly ladies bag exploded and things went everywhere, my son being how he is ran straight over to help her - I followed him but was a few steps behind (old age haha), the look on her face was awful, she obviously thought he was a wrong 'un on sight, he had a hoodie on but didn't have the hood up, he just likes to have a rain shield if gets caught when out but who'd know that on first glance lol....she apologied to me after he'd helped her pick all her things up for pre-judging on a whim but I said I understood given how folks were these days, he went into a shop and asked if could have a new carrier bag for her too!!

ok my sons aren't perfect and they have hormonal spats like any other teens, but I can think I did at least half raise them right! Raised them on my own for a long time and when you get told single mothers can't raise good kids you start to wonder if they're right, I'm so glad mine prove them wrong!

I take shoes off if go into someone's house, been told to put them back on before now, not sure if should be offended or not like!

I was brought up with basic manners, told to treat other people like would want to be treated myself, and most of the time I try...sometimes I fail, but then I'm only human!

Keeping the shoes on in the house, is this an American thing? I find it so strange because I would never leave my shoes on inside my house. I would be washing the floors every day! I see American movies and programs and they are laying on the sofa with sneakers on...isn't the sofa going to get dirty? I'm a neat freak so I just cannot fathom this. If someone came to my house and didn't take their shoes off, I would not be thrilled. But, it seems to be perfectly acceptable in other countries.

Must be a European/Asian thing? That's the first thing I ask when I go to any of my friends houses or anyones house for that matter "should I keep my shoes on or off?", I think it's pretty rude to keep them on if you're staying a long time.

 

[Caprichoso]

My family is European and we take the shoes off. We have outdoor shoes and indoor shoes, or as we call them "house shoes". I think it's very much this way in Japan too. I like it, it is very clean

 

[moochy13]

house shoes = slippers in britain

i always ask when i go into somebodies house the first few times, but if they always say "nah dont worry about it", i dont bother. although if im staying a while i usually do. i dont really think about it to be honest. i dont wear shoes at home, but if im working in the garage, i dont go to the extreme of taking them off every time i want to come and get a drink either.

 

[Caprichoso]

house shoes = slippers in britain

i always ask when i go into somebodies house the first few times, but if they always say "nah dont worry about it", i dont bother. although if im staying a while i usually do. i dont really think about it to be honest. i dont wear shoes at home, but if im working in the garage, i dont go to the extreme of taking them off every time i want to come and get a drink either.

We call them slippers too but only if they have a soft bottom and you're wearing them with a bath robe or pajamas. House shoes have a hard bottom. And, you wouldn't bring slippers to someone's house, you would bring your house shoes. That's just how we roll anyway lol.

 

[StandbySetting]

Why do people need to wear shoes in doors? There's just no point unless your idea of carpet is crushed glass.

 

[coldcazzie]

We don't take our shoes off in the downstairs of the house, but then it's laminate flooring, so very easy to clean. My mop bucket is always to hand! Quite cold sometimes, so shoes help keep feet warm, especially during the winter. However, we do take our shoes off when we go upstairs, where it's carpetted.

In other people's houses I usually ask, and go from there.

 

[moochy13]

house shoes = slippers in britain

i always ask when i go into somebodies house the first few times, but if they always say "nah dont worry about it", i dont bother. although if im staying a while i usually do. i dont really think about it to be honest. i dont wear shoes at home, but if im working in the garage, i dont go to the extreme of taking them off every time i want to come and get a drink either.

We call them slippers too but only if they have a soft bottom and you're wearing them with a bath robe or pajamas. House shoes have a hard bottom. And, you wouldn't bring slippers to someone's house, you would bring your house shoes. That's just how we roll anyway lol.

haha wow you have opened my eyes to some sort of continental footwear protocol movement i dont wear slippers at all, anywhere. shoes or barefoot for me. if i had slippers i would definitely rock up to my mates for a night of whiskey drinking with them.

 

[micko]

I do not wear shoes in the house, there really is no need for it. I won't take my shoes off in someone elses house unless they ask, in your own home its different I think, its where you relax, put your feet up, do whatever it is you do. I don't ask people to take their shoes off in mine unless the kids bring friends in and they've been playing football in the mud. The floors are brushed/hoovered twice a day and mopped once a day so it really matters not.
I will not put my feet into my trainers or shoes once I've been walking about in socks unless I change them as I HATE it, I think its disgusting so I'd rather wear no socks when I put my trainers back on if I was in someones house who wanted me to take my footware off.

 

[Caprichoso]

Why do people need to wear shoes in doors? There's just no point unless your idea of carpet is crushed glass.

Lol, it gets cold in the winter here, -30C if we're really lucky, so we wear house shoes or slippers to keep warm. We don't wear "real" shoes inside but we call them house "shoes" but I guess most people here would call them old man slippers(the one's with the hard bottom). I don't wear them in my house in the summer because it's too hot. I like to bring my house shoes to other people's house to wear because I don't know how clean their floors/carpets may be. My Oma and Opa preferred for us to wear our house shoes at their house because they always told us that bare feet was un-hygenic . They were very particular about many things, even wearing blue jeans/denim was not allowed on the furniture. We had to sit on a towel if we were wearing them. This is definitely not an etiquette thing, but more of a OCD thing!

Another thing I think is important is that the man pay for the lady on a date. What is with all these women paying for their meal on a date? I find this to be unacceptable, unless they are just friends. Though I am all for women's rights, I think we have lost much chivalry along the way unfortunately.

 

[TwoTankAmin]

A wise anonymous person once said.

The more you try to cultivate people, the more you turn up clods.

 

[Clarousel]

We Asians don't wear shoes in the house either. I find it very strange as well! Most Asians do like to wear slippers though