Okay - will try the paper towel trick - thank you! And just to answer some of the questions:
do betta's not like surface ajitation then?
As Curiosity answered, the long-finned bettas are far better off in relatively still water. It takes a lot of effort for them to swim against currents and they can get exhausted pretty quick. I keep my filters running on low AND have deflectors on them (basically deflecting the water toward the wall to break up even the small current from the low-setting filter). You can use tall plants in front of your outlet to break up the water flow there, too. Before I had the deflector, one of my bettas (the one with the longest finnage) was getting so exhausted that one night I really thought he was on his way out. Lying completely on his side on the bottom for way too long and too often.
I decided to try it just in case, put a deflector on the filter, and by next morning, he was absolutely fine and remains so. I really think he was just totally exhausted.
i was planning on having the filter agitating the surface to keep the tank oxegenated?
You don't want surface agitation especially when wanting to breed. Remember, the males make bubble nests on the surface for the ladies to lay their eggs in. All kinds of surface agitation is gonna disturb those nests.
What do you have in your tank?
I've got 2 Amazon Swords, 1 Vallis, a crypt or 2, a small bit of micro sword, and an opened moss ball. Also a piece of Mopani wood. Never occurred to me it was the plants! Makes sense as the other tank, still currently with silk plants, doesn't have it. Hu! Unfortunately, I have to keep live plants because I'm having all kinds of problems (with one betta particularly) with fins getting ripped and torn on the silk plants. (All that hidden hard plastic... grrr!)