Tropjunky
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i know it's not realy the thing this site is for but just wanted to know what u fink
My other half hates my fish wot should i do?
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BigSteve
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æ She don't like fish ??? I'd drop her like a bad habit. thecichlidaddict
Fish Herder
She doesn't have to like your fish, but if she care's about you then she would learn to tolerate them without negative comment. IMO.
ChriX
Fish Crazy
It's one thing saying she doesn't like them, but telling you to kill them is another 
I agree with theciclidaddict, if she cares about you, she'll accept the fact that you love fish, and deal with it quietly.
Personally, I would drop her. How many other things about you will she try to change? (I'm a bit sour on the idea of having to give up things that make you happy in order to please someone else.)
Good luck! I hope she comes around!
Personally, I would drop her. How many other things about you will she try to change? (I'm a bit sour on the idea of having to give up things that make you happy in order to please someone else.)
Good luck! I hope she comes around!
Fiddlesticks
Fish Addict
I wouldnt dump someone just cuz theyre not into fish but if he wants you to kill them then shes not a very compassionate person. dumpity dumpity dump her
noelberg
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she's just jealous that she has to compete for attention!
send her to counseling with a betta in a bowl
send her to counseling with a betta in a bowl
Cheese Specialist
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Well, do you live with her?
I don't see why it would matter.
I don't see why it would matter.
Tropjunky
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no i don't live with her.
Cheese Specialist
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Well, what's the problem then?Tropjunky said:
I could imagine it might be a problem if you lived with them and there were lots of tanks there as it might not be fair on them.
my boyfriend tolerates it, and keeps reminding me that we don't have room for another tnak right now.
he calls it my obsession. but i tell him, well you have your little hobbies, this is mine. could be worse, i could come home every week with new shoes or outfits or hairdo instead of fish.
tell her its your hobby, and she has hers. if she doesn't have any, tell her to get one. if she loves you, she should be supportive of your interests provided you aren't doing anything illegal or that could harm you or others. and as fish keeping is fairly harmless, she really shouldn't have a problem. unless of course when she starts talking you walk over to your tank and start cooing to your fish or ignoring her over your fish, or the fish come before her. then i say she has a right to be a bit upset (and to look at you funny, cooing to your fish.....)
she asks you to kill them? you need to sit her down, explina these are your pets. asking you to kill them would be like asking her to kill her cat or dog for you. you need to talk to her about this, make her understand that she has nothing to be jealous over about your fish, they're your pets, your hobby, but they won't come first over her. thats probably what she's worried about, you care more about little scaly critters than her. reassure her thats not the case. of course, if that is the case, and the fish are more important to you than her, then why are you worrying?
he calls it my obsession. but i tell him, well you have your little hobbies, this is mine. could be worse, i could come home every week with new shoes or outfits or hairdo instead of fish.
tell her its your hobby, and she has hers. if she doesn't have any, tell her to get one. if she loves you, she should be supportive of your interests provided you aren't doing anything illegal or that could harm you or others. and as fish keeping is fairly harmless, she really shouldn't have a problem. unless of course when she starts talking you walk over to your tank and start cooing to your fish or ignoring her over your fish, or the fish come before her. then i say she has a right to be a bit upset (and to look at you funny, cooing to your fish.....)
she asks you to kill them? you need to sit her down, explina these are your pets. asking you to kill them would be like asking her to kill her cat or dog for you. you need to talk to her about this, make her understand that she has nothing to be jealous over about your fish, they're your pets, your hobby, but they won't come first over her. thats probably what she's worried about, you care more about little scaly critters than her. reassure her thats not the case. of course, if that is the case, and the fish are more important to you than her, then why are you worrying?
Corrina
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I would just tell her to grow up, if my other half said he hated my fish and my cat and I would say to him, get a life, love me, love my pets they are a part of me 
cometcattle
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I agree with CS.
Now if it were my dog, I'd dump her.
Actually, I would never be with someone who didnt love dogs anyway.
Now if it were my dog, I'd dump her.
Actually, I would never be with someone who didnt love dogs anyway.
rykitten
Fish Addict
My other half doesn't like fish either. He gets mad when I have to stay late at work to do water changes. We actually had a really big arguement about it a few months back.
I explained to him my feelings about animals. He doesn't share my fascination with them, but he now respects it.
I now have a betta tank at home. He came with me to the LFS and picked out one of the bettas. He even named one. I still do all the water changes, but he likes to feed them.
He's not into it like I am, but at least he doesn't get upset when I spend time on them. I think your girl either needs to relax and stop being so controlling or take a hike. You shouldn't be asked to give up things you enjoy to please her.
I explained to him my feelings about animals. He doesn't share my fascination with them, but he now respects it.
I now have a betta tank at home. He came with me to the LFS and picked out one of the bettas. He even named one. I still do all the water changes, but he likes to feed them.
He's not into it like I am, but at least he doesn't get upset when I spend time on them. I think your girl either needs to relax and stop being so controlling or take a hike. You shouldn't be asked to give up things you enjoy to please her.
DOESN'T LIKE FISH??!!?? WHERE'D YOU FIND HER THE NUT HOUSE??!!! 
NOW WANTING YOU TO KILL THEM IS JUST PLAIN CRUEL AND INSENSITIVE, MAKES YOU WONDER WHAT ELSE SHE WANTS TO KILL!
HAVE A GOOD LIFE FISH HATER!! C'YA, BYE ARIVA, ALOHA, AUSTA LUEGO!
(DON'T MIND MY MISSPELLING)
NOW WANTING YOU TO KILL THEM IS JUST PLAIN CRUEL AND INSENSITIVE, MAKES YOU WONDER WHAT ELSE SHE WANTS TO KILL!HAVE A GOOD LIFE FISH HATER!! C'YA, BYE ARIVA, ALOHA, AUSTA LUEGO!
(DON'T MIND MY MISSPELLING)
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