@Ninjou, I'll take that ship out and scrub on it and see if the paint is coming off. I don't think that is causing this problem, but I wouldn't want it to make things worse either. Also, I feed the betta under 10 pellets a day, and I don't think he quite eats all of them, but I know he picks at everyone else's food too. So you think his big belly could just be fat and not actually full of food? Should I hold off on feeding for a day or so? I've heard that this should be done on occasion, but as I'm thinking about it I don't think I've given them a fasting day in quite awhile.
@Betta Fish, I can get a swimming vid of him today. Also, he seems just fine now! I think he was feeling icky because of the temperature change. I'm so glad that tip was given to bring it back up because it really seems to have helped him!
@Fish Fanatic, The tank is stable and the baby does try to bang on it sometimes but we get on her immediately about it and she stops. I'll get some sort of floating cover or longer plants as soon as possible. I didn't know that! Good tip

. As for water hardness, I know our area has super nasty hard water (I know this because when I use the shower at the campus gym my hair is RUINED for weeks), but the water that makes it to our rental is much softer, though still on the hard side, I believe. We only live a block from that gym so I know it's the same water, but I think it is softened before it actually gets to our house because my hair isn't nearly as sad/gross when I shower here. I have began washing just my hair with a jug of distilled water because of the problem though. I wonder if, like I said before, the neons just aren't liking my tank and all of my attempts to make them better (and them darting around unhappy and dying) is what is making the rest of the fish unhappy? I think that is really sad for them, but would really be the ideal explanation. I'm super hoping we don't have a disease

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