Lost my Black Molly

[tstenback]

Black mollies are very hard fish to be successful with unless your tank is very mature. Yes, shed a tear for something that you loved, to do otherwise would be cold and heartless and We all know that for you that is not the case.

THere are not many things that pull on our heart strings that hard but we have to grow stronger from these times and try to learn why it happened and what we can do to help prevent it . I truly can speak from experience on this issue because the fish that made me get into this hobby 35 years ago was a black molly. I tried over 20 times in those 35 years to keep these fish and i have never succeeded over the long haul, i can keep them for a few months or maybe a year then i loose them all. So for me to see my favourite fish i have to visit the LFS or a friends house and if that is what it takes then that's OK.

You did everything possible for your fish,( you recognized there was a problem, you asked for help, and all that help still could not save the fish) and for that you should be proud not sad. So many would not have noticed until the fish was floating in the water or would have flushed it at the first sign of something wrong. But you chose the hard road and with that comes the grieving, the healing and the knowledge that you did everything possible to try and save a life, is there anything more noble.
I know it is hard to keep going, but when you love something so much how can you not try again.
God Bless.

 

[pandapops001]

Thank you everyone for your support and kind words, i must admit that after watching them today and still looking for him, i've realised that if i gave up i would be losing all my fish and not just the one, i know it wouldnt be the same, but they would still be gone.

Whilst typing that message this morning i could bearly see through my teary eyes, but i guess you are all right, i would be losing much more not to continue

The others all look very happy and healthy, but i think my remaining black molly is missing him, as they used to swim around together before he got ill, and when he was ill, she used to stay pretty close to him most of the time.

Do fish mourn like us, and if so, do you think she will be okay??

She is just swimming around aimlessly now, she tried to join in with the 2 silver mollys and the dalmation, but they just swam away, and i feel for her, is there anything else that i can do??

 

[aerofish]

Pandapops, I hear you. Mollies are hard to keep. I have killed one silver molly already. My black molly is suffering at this very moment in my 15 gal. He stays away from view, only coming out for food. I have also killed some fish that I REALLY wanted to stay w/ me forever. Like a beautiful angel. Yes I killed an angel.
Don't lose hope. The best thing is to continue w/ your tank cuz dumping them in other tanks would almost surely cause death, just from the sudden change in conditions.

 

[Guppylover]

Do fish mourn like us, and if so, do you think she will be okay??

She is just swimming around aimlessly now, she tried to join in with the 2 silver mollys and the dalmation, but they just swam away, and i feel for her, is there anything else that i can do??

I believe that fish morn but more in a lonely way. Like when you only buy one neon tetra for your tank instead of a group. I guess your molly is just trying to finds some mate/friends. Mabye after a while you should buy another molly for yours, only if you want to though...

 

[balloon molly]

yeah i wouyld agree with guppylover mollies are very social and if they lose a friend they will get lonely.i used to have 2 black balloon mollies and 1 choco but one of the blacks had dropsy and shortly died .then i bought a male and they were fighting over him .now he is the ruler of the tank and everyone is happy.if you can try to get another black molly for your other one

 

[Pleco-Heaven]

I felt like giving up when my Ram, Fred, died, It was the damn filter and heaters fault the both collapsed at the same time! He was the longest lived fish in that tank (except Plecky), 5 months at least! I want to get another one but i'd probably get my head bitten off by someone like cheese_specialist for overstocking.

 

[Fiddlesticks]

At least when he died, he had someone who was prepared to look after him. Too many people get into fishkeeping for all the wrong reasons and don't care about the fish. If you stop keeping fish, then thats one less person who will do it responsibly!

I agree. Dont give up. When I lost my favorite fish, I beat myself up over it too. What if I did this, what if I didnt do this. But sometimes fish just die. And if you olny had him 2 weeks who knows what he might have had wrong with him. He was probably sick when you got him/her.