I give up

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Rocky998

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I'm giving up the hobby I'm pretty sure... I've had a number of hits to the tank and now there's a major issue that happened and I'm just done with it... I hate saying that I am cause I really don't want to. It's just become too much now and I'm tired and overwhelmed. I'm on a small mini vacation and this all happened when I was away when my mom called to tell me... She told me not to make any rash decisions, which I agree... But I just genuinely am tired of everything with it
 
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That's unfortunate. But stow the equipment away. If you stick with the idea of leaving the hobby, in a couple of years, you'll be back.
 
That's unfortunate. But stow the equipment away. If you stick with the idea of leaving the hobby, in a couple of years, you'll be back.
Maybe... I might keep some stuff, idk.
 
Maybe set up a nano tank and stock with micro fish. Easy for WC time and upkeep.
 
Well, no rush... Try to overthink it. And yes, in case you really need a break from it, don't get rid of it all. So, when you feel like coming back to the hobby, you've got your stuff to start again to avoid a financial investment again.
 
Whatever you do, don't sell the equipment. You won't get nearly as much back as you put into it and chances are, you will be back. This hobby has a way of doing that to everyone that thinks they can escape.
 
Maybe set up a nano tank and stock with micro fish. Easy for WC time and upkeep.
Maybe... idk. Idek where I'd put the tank since the place it's at is ruined right now
Well, no rush... Try to overthink it. And yes, in case you really need a break from it, don't get rid of it all. So, when you feel like coming back to the hobby, you've got your stuff to start again to avoid a financial investment again.
I'll try.. that seems smart but idk how to store the filter media and all that
Whatever you do, don't sell the equipment. You won't get nearly as much back as you put into it and chances are, you will be back. This hobby has a way of doing that to everyone that thinks they can escape.
Yeah...
 
What happened?
 
Ah blimey I've been in the same situation. A seal on a hose pipe went and a quarter the tank went into the cabinet.

These are all the testing things that come in from this hobby and sometimes it is too much. I've sold up and dipped out at least twice over the years. Selling is a bit heartbreaking as you never get good prices so just be 100% that you are totally out before you do.

And as tough as it is sometimes it is important to remember that there is more to life than fish keeping just to put it into perspective.

Wills
 
Maybe set up a nano tank and stock with micro fish. Easy for WC time and upkeep.
That's exactly what I did when I'd had a major disaster, I've got 2 nano tanks on the go atm. @Rocky998 I hope you can rediscover your passion for the hobby even if you do take a break.
 
sometimes the timing isn't right, I was huge into fish 30 years ago, and just a couple years ago I got back into fish... my 200 plus gallon tank went down the road, because of it's size, but I kept all the rest that were bigger than 30 gallons... most were built into the walls in my basement, and patiently waited for me to come back... I just got too busy, and put the money towards other hobbies, and expenses, and today I'm back to a dozen tanks... to do your tanks justice, you need to have the time to monitor things vilagently , for drips, heater temps, and water quality, and for 30 years previously I couldn't do that...

BTW... I started with bought stands, and I had a couple go bad due to moisture... that plastic coated saw dust lumber, that is often used for strands is an extremely poor choice of materials... I now use construction lumber, and cement blocks, for most of my stands... my wall of built in tanks are covered with pine car siding, looks good, and really stood the test of time, with aquarium use...
 
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I think, from reading you on the forum, that your new passion is rod and reel fishing. We have members who drift into posting about cars, paintings, fishing trips or shoes, and never seem to go back to talking about fish before they wander off. It's a shame, but we have had tens of thousands of members here over decades, and maybe a couple of thousand are currently checking in.
People find new hobbies and interests. I embrace my own weirdness because I've remained interested all my life, but not everyone sees it that way. Some of us would choose a bass fishing opportunity over a trip to a new aquarium store full of species they'd never before seen. Strange.

If you've lost the interest, then routine, doing things because you think you have to isn't a good idea for a hobby. Maybe for a job, sure. Possibly for a future marriage if you're unlucky. But with a hobby, something that is meant to be a pleasurable, engaging thing, just doing it because you used to seems off.

When you want to do it again, and rediscover an interest in fish you don't know well, or aquascapes you'd never considered, then restart. If you wake up tomorrow morning with a fishkeeping plan, stay with it. But if it feels like a chore, then go out and explore.
 
I think, from reading you on the forum, that your new passion is rod and reel fishing. We have members who drift into posting about cars, paintings, fishing trips or shoes, and never seem to go back to talking about fish before they wander off. It's a shame, but we have had tens of thousands of members here over decades, and maybe a couple of thousand are currently checking in.
People find new hobbies and interests. I embrace my own weirdness because I've remained interested all my life, but not everyone sees it that way. Some of us would choose a bass fishing opportunity over a trip to a new aquarium store full of species they'd never before seen. Strange.

If you've lost the interest, then routine, doing things because you think you have to isn't a good idea for a hobby. Maybe for a job, sure. Possibly for a future marriage if you're unlucky. But with a hobby, something that is meant to be a pleasurable, engaging thing, just doing it because you used to seems off.

When you want to do it again, and rediscover an interest in fish you don't know well, or aquascapes you'd never considered, then restart. If you wake up tomorrow morning with a fishkeeping plan, stay with it. But if it feels like a chore, then go out and explore.
I love both. I didn't switch hobbies, I've always loved fishing...
but all this just made me feel like a burden to others now and with all the issues starting from it, I literally just can't. I already have to tear it down either way to start anew and I just don't feel like going through that whole process

Aquarium keeping gave my mind something to make me feel like I had some sort of purpose to waking up every day... I wouldn't want to give that up but my mind right now just doesn't have the energy to do a full restart on everything... I love my fish so much... I just got them better from whatever infection they had... I hate this, I really do
 

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