What kind of gourami do you have? And how many?
From my own experience I can only say what I've seen. My gourami do not fight, but I only have one male to 4 females in my species tank. The girls used to posture somewhat with each other until the pecking order was decided. I'd see them lock mouths....kinda.
Sizing each other up. Males would do much the same thing. If they come across as evenly matched and they're still unhappy they will most likely fight. if there's an obvious stronger male then the other will be ousted and may get chased a great deal until either he stays away (If the tank allows) or he dies from stress. In the event of a fight they will attack towards the underside of the body, bite at fins and the tail. They will flare (Although not in the same way as a betta but will extend all their finnage as far as possible and make themselves look big and impressive.)and they will chase.
It sounds to me like you have a dominant male...but not by much, hence all the hassel. Are you absolutely sure who is male? A male with prance and chase females too in an attempt to spawn.
Hugs,
P.