*crying*

[Pointy_kitty]

i'm so PO'd and jealous!
i love my best friend with all my heart
she's like a sister to me
the problem is that she is still living with her parents so she can spend every dime (and she does) of her paycheck on everything she wants
she also has a college fund unlike me from her grandparents so she has no worries
so ya back to what i was saying
she loves my animals and so she went a little nuts and in the last couple of months bought a puppy, a guinea pig, and 2 fish tanks (a 10gal and a 33gal)

i've been a animal nut all my life and i have always been known as the "kritter lady" since i have raised and kept such a variety of things
thats how i was known
but now i feal like she is taking my place
i don't wanna sound like its a competition because that is NOT AT ALL why i keep animals
at first i was so happy for her
but now she phones me constantly for advice (which i lover her to death so i love to help) but yesterday she bought a 18gallon
she's only had fish for a month (not even) and she is biting off way more than she can chew!
not only that but i want another tank really bad and she just walks into a store and buys one like any other day
i'm so jealous its bugging the heck out of me
i wish i didn't feal this way
i feal like a bad friend being so jealous
i wish i could just lighten up! )

 

[Pointy_kitty]

i just wanna add that the reason i say she is biting off more than she can chew is that her puppy keeps peeing everywhere, she has no time to train it, she has 3 fish tanks that she hardly knows how to take care of, she's working AND doing college, her baby guinea pig needs lots of love (and she has a busy little life!) and she is almost a mother figure to her baby brother!
she would NEVER neglect an animal but i am worried that she will break if she keeps this all up
i just hope she stops buying things for a little while at least til she balances things out!

i can deal with it if i'm just jealous, but i hate to see her take on so much

 

[White Whale]

Have faith..... It will show in the end who is Master Of The Pets......

 

[G_Sharky]

Hey maybe if she gets tired and couldn't take care of all those tank she might pass it to you so be nice to her

 

[Pointy_kitty]

Hey maybe if she gets tired and couldn't take care of all those tank she might pass it to you so be nice to her

you guys are so cute

Have faith..... It will show in the end who is Master Of The Pets......

and good idea G_Sharky!!!!!!!!!
my mom just said that like 20 minutes ago!

and then i thought.........
hmmmmmmm......... saltwater?

 

[Tempestuousfury]

You can't change the fact that your friend wants to buy animals. If she happens to buy more pets than you, it's not really meant to be a slight towards you. Anyways, you're already "Master of the Pets" in my book. I've never met a person with that many pets, though there have been TV shows where people talk about their pets, but that doesn't matter.

There are so many people here who have ten's of tanks or collosal tanks that dwarf mine. But you don't see me railing against them. We can't change the fact that others have more things than us (some w/o even working for them). That's what makes the things we have even more precious, wouldn't you agree? I bet your friend doesn't care for pets like you do, and that's all that matters.

 

[chaotica2010]

There are so many people here who have ten's of tanks or collosal tanks that dwarf mine. But you don't see me railing against them. We can't change the fact that others have more things than us (some w/o even working for them).

HAHAHAH seriously if I got jealous or Po'd bout everyone here that had more fish stuff than I did I'd have to get pist at a bunch of people like CFC or FreshMike just to name a few. But instead I am glad to have their experience. It isn't always bout quantity sometimes it is quality. I have seen pics here of peoples 10 galon tanks that put my 55 gallon to shame. In the case of the aforementioned they have been at this for years. They didn't get it all over night.

It is difficult not to try and keep up with the Jones's. Just remember your friends actions can only upset you if you allow them to upset you. You have the free will to feel how ever you want.

Take a deep breath and be happy for what you have not upset about what you don't.

Rick B)

 

[Pointy_kitty]

) i know all of this,
and and still sometimes it's hard not to scream out "NO!!! GIVE ME THE TANK!!!!!!! I HAVE A BIRTHDAY COMING!!!!!!!! ITS ONLY 8 MONTHS AWAY!!!!!!!!! I NEED THAT TANK!!!!!"

thanx all to your kind words
it was just eating away at me but i feel better now that i've vented
i'll just steal her tank away in the night........
mwahahahahaha

 

[Silly me]

I'm not realy reading this post but Pointy_kitty you have such a nice signature picture, I luv it. lol

 

[Shadowpearl]

Sounds a little like an insecurity to me, (she to you initially but you're showin' the signs, what with her rain on your parade). I understand where you're coming from, (Lordy! I do!) -she's trying turn herself into St Francis of Assisi all of a sudden -you have to ask why?

It's not really about bigger, better, faster stronger. Not with you for sure. but why does she feel the need?

Not much help or solace, I'm sorry. It was just a thought. )

Ho hum.

 

[Sang72]

Just a thought, but it is said that emulation is the highest form of flattery. Could it be that she is somewhat envious of the joy you get from keeping animals, and wants to be more like you? Just remember, when and if she gets tired of them you will most likely be first in line for adoption.

And remember, she comes to you for advice, which means she respects your experience with animals and values your opinion.

 

[Pointy_kitty]

I'm not realy reading this post but Pointy_kitty you have such a nice signature picture, I luv it. lol

thanks
he's my cousins boy
my cousin got him to stand in front of the "pretty lady" and wink but he couldn't quite figure it out

 

[Pointy_kitty]

Just a thought, but it is said that emulation is the highest form of flattery. Could it be that she is somewhat envious of the joy you get from keeping animals, and wants to be more like you? Just remember, when and if she gets tired of them you will most likely be first in line for adoption.

And remember, she comes to you for advice, which means she respects your experience with animals and values your opinion.

i do find it flattering ) and i am more than happy to help her
and with what you and others have said i feel less and less jealous with every new reply
i beleive someone posted "its quality not quantity"
and its true
i have worked so hard on my tanks and i beleive that my set ups are georgeous and my fish/ plants are thriving
you'll see my tanks (not really my fish too well) in my next sig that i should have up within the next couple of days
i am proud
and hers (although she has really nice fish) have little to no set-up
they are all empty looking with maybe 2 old plastic plants
she hasn't put much heart/work into it
but i did feel my chest swell with pride when she came over and saw my tanks and my new editions and just gasped

i just hope for her sake that she stops to train the pup and take care of her tanks before she starts to buy more
she hasn't even had time for her tanks to settle and i fear the phone call in the night when she hits her first fishy snag (disease/ aggression/ pregnancy etc.)

 

[Pleco-Heaven]

I know how you fell-I have only 1 fish tank!! Most people on this forum has 2+!!

 

[waterwatereverywhere]

Me too - in fact I have none at the moment! I had to strip it down when circumstances were such that I couldn't give it the time it needed.

But now it's almost ready to go again, I'm putting the water in over the next few days! It's so exciting!

I agree with what the others have said - the effort put into a tank and therefore its quality is far more important than how many you can squeeze into your house/budget!