smb said:
Now I'm going to be paranoid every time I post a reply to try and help someone wondering whether they're going to take it the right way or not, and I feel others reading this will also see my posts in a different way now just looking for something that isn't even there.
If anyone else feels like I am condescending when I reply, please let me know and I will leave here. The last thing I want to do is hurt this forum or make anyone I reply to feel bad.
SMB, I know how you feel because my Asperger's Syndrome means I make a lot of mistakes in communicating with people and often cause offense without meaning to.
However, I came the conclusion that I could do one of two things:
1. Avoid communicating, for fear of making mistakes, and become very lonely and isolated as well as depriving more tolerant people of my friendship.
2. Say "What the heck - it's not going to kill them!" and just accept it as something that just happens, like the weather. As long as I have a good humour about it and am willing to apologise if people are offended, it shouldn't be a problem.
You may not have AS like me, but people vary in their abilities to communicate sensitively (generally men are worse at it than women, but there are many exceptions). If you are good at it, great! If not, there's little you can do about it so you might as well learn to live with it.
So somebody felt you were condescending? Well, they have a right to their own feelings. You obviously didn't intend to be, which is the important thing. I don't think it's worth getting totally paranoid over, however, and if it was unintentional and you still can't see it, it's not likely that pointing it out to you is going to help any, is it? I don't think you should leave the forum just because you aren't as sensitive as you'd like to be! Otherwise, half of us would have to leave with you!