Advice To Nuisance Family Members And/or Friends?

Ludwig Venter

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Sometimes....... just sometimes, I feel overwhelmed by these and would like to submit a list of ground rules applicable to them...... just to give me the freedom of space and them the boundaries of my generosities......

For instance...... this would be applicable.....

* Don't call or ring my doorbell after 8pm or before 8am - unless somebody is needing to go to the hospital!
* Don't visit or "pop around" unexpectedly - I may not want visitors... (or I'm just too busy in the office)
* Don't phone my cellphone only for you to put down when I say "hello" (especially private numbers).
* If I don't answer your call (for what ever reason) - don't keep phoning from different numbers in the hope that I will eventually answer!
* Don't come into my office after 10pm offering to "help" and gossip endlessly keeping me out of work! (directed at my mom)
* If you can't manage your finances properly, please remember that I am not your personal ATM (but if you can prove that your animals don't have food and you haven't had any luxuries at all, then I'll make a plan for your pets - not you!). (directed at family in general)
* And never inform me what / how I can spend my income better... I earn it, I spend it, just like you blow it! (directed at my mom and outlaws!)

Other than that, I'm pretty easy going... unless I'm in a really bad mood! LOL

One more - don't say you are going to phone / pop in / etc and don't do it - that really ticks me off! The service agents promised to collect the dishwasher on Monday morning but they would phone first so I stayed in - they only phoned today to collect it and then promptly wiped their muddy shoes on the carpet all the way through the lounge to the kitchen instead of outside! Grrr....

Is it just me, or do (can) you add anything to my list?????
 
To work colleagues: whilst in the kitchen waiting for the toast to pop or kettle to boil, don’t fill silences with talk about the weather i.e. “I heard it might rain tomorrow.”

Yes. We live in England. It probably will
 
All guests who decide to turn up unannounced should not expect a hot beverage... or cold one for that matter (aimed at my mum), nor should they tell me how i should arrange my furnishings in my front room (also aimed at my mum.)

Colleagues on the till behind me should leave chit chat for when it's quiet on the shop floor.

Department managers, don't conduct an attendance review then during the review congratulate me on my attendance rate... it's contradictory.
 
Anyone who phones/texts me between the hours of 11.30pm and 7am and expects me to reply should expect a slightly pointed response. :angry:
 
This applies to no matter who you are but especially the kids, if you mess it up, clean it up. If you break it, you fix it, you want your clothes washed then bring them downstairs. You spill it, clean it up.
If you ever get kicked out of school, do not come home. If you get arrested, I won't be coming to bail you out.

This goes to everyone except the kids (if they have good reason that is) do not phone me in the middle of the night. If your drunk then don't phone at all. Do not wake me up, even if someone is dead, I get little enough sleep with an hour max of unbroken sleep, if they're dead, they will still be dead when I wake up.
Do not come into my home and treat it like its your own, its not, so don't do it.
Do look in my fridge.

And this is the final sentence, NEVER, EVER, go in my pockets, whether I'm wearing the item of clothing or not.
 
One thing annoys me is parents that demand respect but give their kids none, is it too much to ask that a parent doesn't read through your text messages? It's just annoying and rude.
 
It really annoys me when I'm clearly fast asleep but somebody has to come in and ask "are you sleeping?". My mum is even better - she'll come in and start talking as though I'm awake.
 
If you win an auction or buy it now on the auction site PAY FOR IT :shout: . (aimed at the idiotic non payers)
 
I know this mght be a "tweeny weeny" bit off topic, but do you know what really gets "my goat", when you go into hospital and you are feeling really rough and someone including the nurses and doctors comes to your bedside and say "Hello are you allright" ?

The answer to that is .... "No of course I am not bloody allright or else I would"nt be here" !!!

"Grrr".

Peter.
 
Hospitals ... argh. If you didn't go in with insomnia, you'll walk out with it! The worst place on earth to try and get sleep. 3 a.m.: "Hi! Are you sleeping well?!" Not anymore, thanks.
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My daughters will "drunk call" me at all hours, professing their undying love. Will you still love me when you're sober??

Over the past couple of years, my mother has become all but uncommunicative during our weekly telephone visits. She swears she has nothing to talk about, then acts bored when I initiate a subject. We talk every Sunday, so today is another talk coming up. Sigh.
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Yes I can relate to hospitals, I was in last November for a whole month, not an enjoyable experience, a busy ward, a hell of a job to get some sleep, one night I did manage to "drop off" AND was woken up at 2.30am to be told they were taking me down for a scan !!!
That was the end of that night.

When I eventually got home, and got back to my own bed, albeit with a plastic tube still in, which the nurses came in and checked every day, but I slept like a "top" and felt better for it.

Peter.
 
when i was in hospital they woke me up to see if i wanted any sleeping pills.

and other halves that say when you ask them what they want to eat this evening say oh anything, and nothing you suggest after that is received with thanks.
 
and other halves that say when you ask them what they want to eat this evening say oh anything, and nothing you suggest after that is received with thanks.
Oh that drives me mad! I also hate it when I tell him that he has to cook, but he still expects me to tell him what we're having and how I want him to make it!
 
I love it when he tells me he's going to cook (which happens a few times a year) and then he gets on Facebook to brag about it! You'd think I never cook a meal around here!
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