About Your Fish Habits

[smb7676]

I wanted to do this as a poll but I couldn't figure it out.

Who gives you the most headach about your fish habit
a. hubby /wife/or whoever you are dating
b kids
c sister/bro/ mom/ dad
d co workers/friends
e inlaws
F other


For me it tends to be E any time I talk about starting a new tank or buying fish I get the eye roll why do you need another ...such and such. You should of heard the yelping when I set up a 10 gal hospital tank a year ago..
When I lost a whole tank of fish and thought I would stop keeping fish, you would of thought my inlaws just made a million dollers. I don't get it Its not like I live with them my family lives 3 hrs away ??? I don't even talk to them about it.

 

[unspoken930]

Probably C, but my friends give me a hard time about it too... like today at school (we have laptops) i was in the student lounge reading on here and a few of my friends started complaining and saying "oh god not more fish.... ughhhh" lol, but w/e

 

[WayneVT08]

Friends. If my brother gives me any lip I'll just beat his ***. So yeah. I have that under control.

 

[smb7676]

Friends. If my brother gives me any lip I'll just beat his ***. So yeah. I have that under control.

Atlanta is a tough town on fish keepers.

 

[dgwebster]

d) co-workers - im always on ebay buying stuff etc for them during work as its something to do.

 

[unspoken930]

Atlanta is a tough town on fish keepers.
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haha, well i go to a little private school and most of the kids there wouldnt dream of haveing "slimy icky fish" so.... heh yeah.... they cant believe i have horses too, and that i live on a farm and actually do work and not get a groom or stable hand to do it all for me... i dont think they understand people ENJOY doing things like that but w/e lol

 

[WayneVT08]

Yea. All my friends are like that is so not exciting, why don't you just get a dog and stuff. I say maybe I don't want one. but who cares its no big deal.

 

[Siamese Fighter05]

C for me....In FW anyway.

Whenever i came home with new fish my mom would always moan. It got to the point where i'd just walk down and get them on my own when she was out so i wouldn't have to hear her complain
I wouldn't bother asking her to lend me money for anything for my cory fry.

If it was for my salties she'd change her tone. She drops me down the LFS and even bought me a clownfish which kinda shocked me She's buying me another soon

I don't tell my mates about my fish hobby, they all keep tanks but i end up cleaning them.....i don't let them know how much i'm into all of this though, they'd kill me

 

[wendywc]

My mom thinks fish tanks are messy. But she just visits on occassion -- so who cares?

Everyone else in the family and friends think the fish are great. And my husband loves them and wants more tanks... he's worse than me. Of course, I take care of them though; he doesn't.

 

[lljdma06]

C and D. Oldest sister hates it when I start talking fish. Mom understands much better and really likes the plants. Most friends think I'm a complete geek or nerd but then complain to me why they're so bored or depressed and I am not. Singers really need to have a regular hobby and I feel I'm much better off having this one. I do have one friend, however, who will sit and just stare at my tank when she visits. She says it relaxes her and that makes me feel good. Same friend is driving me back to Miami so I can keep my tanks.

 

[soritan]

Mostly D) Coworks, for me. My coworkers are of the "they're just fish" ilk. Of course, they think I'm very geeky (and/or very weird) anyways. C) Family, was a big issue for me for a bit, but I only work on and purchase stuff for my tank while they aren't about, now, saves me a lot of hassle.

 

[lmcarlton]

Well if I had to pick one group it would have to be coworkers.

No one really gives me trouble about it. My parents love my fish (they just wouldn't want to take care of the fish tank themselves). My boyfriend is the same way, he's interested I guess maybe because I am.

My coworkers listen to what I say and some are fishkeepers but I would say my boss is the clueless one. So I just stopped talking about it with her now I don't have problems with complaints.

My fish, my tank, my money.. it's not yours so don't complain.

Actually it was funny, because my fish had fry my parents we the ones who said it was time for me to get a bigger tank, and I let them decide where it would do and everything (since it was their house) so they were happy with it. Kinda got them involved. They love it now.

Lea-Andra

 

[dwarfgourami]

Hmmm...they all do it differently.

Husband is tolerant and would never moan about it- but he's not interested either. Not really.

Daughter wanted the fish in the first place, and likes them, but gets jealous if I spend time with them, or time on the forum. Would prefer something cuddly.

Extended family are polite, but it's not really their thing. They all live abroad anyway, so they don't exactly have to suffer from my tanks.

Inlaws slightly more enthusiastic, but never visit.

Co-workers say 'oh how lovely' and expect the topic to be closed.

Friends- well, I went to a meeting of my old new-parents group who used to be such a source of comfort and support when the kids were little. We are all moving on now, and I happened to mention that I have this new hobby- I didn't know fishkeeping was THAT weird! The looks I got suggested that there is something almost perverted about fishkeeping, certainly far too strange for a normal, sane human being to contemplate. 'Too much work', muttered one (remember this was the CHILDBIRTH group, and one member was actually cradling a 6-month-old!). 'The tanks all grow green, don't they?' mumbled another. I was going to go on enthusing about different species and how I hope to go into conservation breeding one day, but- well, you lose heart, don't you?

 

[helsekia]

a--hubby cos he says they take up far too much of my time and I spend far too much money and if he were a fish hed get more attention...........



e--my in laws cos theyre just generally a pain in the A***!!!!

 

[soritan]

And people treat it like it's such an odd thing. I think the kindest thing my coworker ever said to me, when I was rattling off facts about brig. snails (apple snails), was "It's so funny that you know these things." I finally just gave up and said that I like knowing things, and I'm smart.

I think it's the whole "just fish" attitude that really plauges me... like, "They're just fish, why are you trying so hard?" "They're just fish, why do you read so much?" "They're just fish, why are you so sad it died?" "They're just fish, plop them into a bowl and feed it." They treat their fish as something slightly worse than a potted plant. These people fawn on their mammelian pets to the point of public embarressment!

Er, my coworkers, I mean, they fawn over their pets to the point of public embarressment. I love my cats, too, but we keep our affections in polite check while company is around.

The people who surround me don't enjoy a good think, I've noticed. They don't have the patience and the fascination. They think of the fish as being a waste of time, or a bit of color in a glass box, like a flower.

I'm venting.

I should stop.



People suck.