As essjay pointed out, we need to get at the bottom of the water properties.
As a first step, stop using fridge filtered water, stop microwaving water, stop all chemicals to adjust pH. Use only a conditioner at the level for the volume of water changed, nothing more. When we know the properties (GH, KH and pH) of the tap water on its own (do the tests as essjay instructed) we will be able to proceed.
You do have problems with the fish stocking, but that is not behind the water/toxic issue yet, so we can get back to that later.
As a first step, stop using fridge filtered water, stop microwaving water, stop all chemicals to adjust pH. Use only a conditioner at the level for the volume of water changed, nothing more. When we know the properties (GH, KH and pH) of the tap water on its own (do the tests as essjay instructed) we will be able to proceed.
You do have problems with the fish stocking, but that is not behind the water/toxic issue yet, so we can get back to that later.