Well I put her in again without any luck. I then changed males and it really got funny. She would let him embrace her and then shoot right out of the loop leaving him floating gracefully to the bottom. They eventually got the hang of things but then he didn't bother to pick up the eggs that were falling to the bottom so she had a snack.
He's keeping a very loose nest and I really don't expect much from this spawn. I looked in this morning and you can see some movement and one baby fell out of the nest but got himself back into it. He's currently half attending it. Once I see more babies then I might pull him. I think he'll eat them when they get free swimming based on his lack of interest.