Hmmm that's interesting, the only other tank I could move one to would be the Betta's tank (10lt) so it would be ok in there, I'll keep an eye on them for the next day or two and if it starts to look too serious I'll move one in with the Betta.
Stang, I've done a heap of research on the Rams about sexing them, blue dot's through the black blotch mean female, but yellow shoulders are supposed to indicate male! I think I'm just going to have to be patient and wait for them to grow up. But I'm annoyed because I specifically ordered a pair.
Edit: I did initially post the exact same question in the Cichlid forum and got no response so I put it in the TFF as well