Now I Feel Awful!

[Dextersmummy]

After long thought and looking around I found what seemed to be a lovely person to rehome two of my fish to that had outgrown their tank, on the promise that they would go to a big aquarium and be much loved and looked after, so then I get sent a picture and its terrible, the tank is dingy and dirty and smaller then mine with way to many fish in I feel so so guilty, I wish id have gone to see the place but I suffer from anxiety so I hardly go out and trusted that they would be ok when I sent them away, I dont know what to do now, Nothing I can do I guess, Lesson learned and I feel so bad ..........

 

[Dextersmummy]

Bump!!

 

[Bugdozer]

Maybe you could point them to this forum so they will learn to be a responsible fishkeeper? Or tell a white lie and say you got a bigger tank now, can you have your fish back because you really miss them, and then try to find them a different home for them ASAP? (You could always claim they died if the person who has them now wonders where they went.)

 

[BlueDragon]

I'm Anthropophobic, which is the fear of people, so I know what it's like to feel the way you do. I could never go to someones house and I can't handle people coming over to mine either. It's really hard to work around sometimes isn't it?

I think in future I'd ask for photos of the tank, ask for dimetions and ask for them to give you a guide on how they care for their Fish etc. That's what I'm planning on doing for my baby Guppies when the time comes for them to go to their new homes. The thing is (as much as it probably makes me look like a horrable person) I'm not totally trusting of people and I always want to make sure that everything is the way I like it first. And I end up asking lots of questions. I'm sure that sometimes makes me look like a stuck up something-or-other or even makes me look like a hard-a*se. But I don't mind, 'cause if people don't understand it then I know that they probably aren't the right people to become new mummies or daddies for my beloved pets.

This person promised you that your Fish would be going to a large home, clean and healthy. And that they would be well looked after. She clearly has gone against that promise. You could point that out to her along with how upset and dissapointed you are and see what she says? Show her how a tank should look and, yes I agree, direct her here where peoples could help her make it better. Or maybe she'll give you your Fish back if she knows that she's let you down so badly.

It's always worth a go. It does often work if gone about in the right way.

 

[Dextersmummy]

Thank you both, it is really hard, I will send her a message later and try to get through to her, it just haunts me and I feel so awful, thank you again for your advice xx

 

[BlueDragon]

Tiz OK. But I'm sure you can work with her to get this sorted out. Just be honest and tell her how upset you are, explain why, be nice about it and see where that gets you first : )

And don't feel so bad. So your not perfect... are we missing someone who is? Ulimately it's their wrong doing though, not yours. They shouldn't have went against their promise like that. It's not nice.

 

[BlueDragon]

Hi Dextersmummy, any news?