Here is mine:
I was told it was probably a female for a few reasons: 1) Her ovipositer (the small tube sticking out from the cloaca) is visible, but then again males can also show what looks like an ovipositer. 2) the males have longer rays on their dorsal (top) fin than do females, 3) they tend to have longer filaments or streamers on their caudal fin, 4) tend to show more color than females, and 5) tend to be more territorial.
Ok here is the best side view I could get. Sorry about the Gourami. They are best friends. I think mine may be a male, he gets mad at barbs when they come towards him and he does have that spot on his side, most of the time...
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