Thank you! I think that answers my question on the fish end.
In regards to plants, is there anything I can do for them? I'd love to be able to have vals, and some other faster growing plants. They all seem to die within a few months even adding root tabs. Is there another type of fertilizer that would help those types of plants without affecting my water hardness too much?
Vallisneria does well in harder water--it is after all native to the rift lakes in Africa which are quite high in GH. Rather than considering adjustments for a specific plant, look to other plants that will be OK in your soft water. My water is basically zero GH and KH, and I have success with several plants, so I have stayed with these.
Sword plants are one, and the chain swords (
Helanthium tenellum) would be ideal here. They spread via runners the same as
Vallisneria, and in fact look much the same with their long narrow leaves. The larger Amazon Sword plants (
Echinodorus species) would work in the larger tank.
I've no idea what brand of fertilizers you have used, but all are not equal. The best substrate tabs I have used are Seachem's
Flourish Tabs. For liquid, if it is needed, a comprehensive supplement used sparingly should suffice.
Flourish Comprehensive Supplement is one of the best, and Brightwell Aquatics'
FlorinMulti is another. As you are in the USA, you should be able to find one or both of these locally or online.