I run a small business, 1/3 of an acre and half of that requires a push mower, 5 dogs, 4 ponds, 2 cats, and I do occasionally have to eat and sleep. I gave my reef that took more time than I had away in 2012. So if it takes a weekly water change I don't bring the fish home. if it takes kalkwasser in the morning and RO and salt mix, I don't bring it home. And I cannot do weekly water changes no matter how easy they are. But thank you. if it turns out my julii corydoras have to have sand they will need a new home. Fish have to live within the conditions I can provide. or live elsewhere.
I use undergravel because, well I did a water change on the hex back in February I think, and I got the younger tanks a couple of times in between, but not the hex, and yes my nitrates were at 140 last night before I did a 50% water change, but no fish died. The algae eater and loach and guppies and tetras are alive. I will do a couple more water changes to get the nitrates down, but the giant anubias in the center of the tank is probably handling a lot too. If I had had sand and a back filter or a sponge I'd have lost the tank. And if I don't work in the spring, I lose my house. I have a mortgage, there is little work now that it is 100 degrees out, so now I catch up on aquariums and feed the lotus and the lilies