Eleotrids are all remarkably similar in terms of temperament. They are territorial, but not psychotically so; give the enough space and a cave, and you should be fine. They are all predatory to some degree, and males guard their nests and so can be expected to become aggressive towards tankmates at that time.
Purple-spotted gudgeons (Mogurnda spp.) are towards the higher end of the territoriality range, and this is well known, so why your LFS said otherwise I cannot say. Hypseleotris spp are much less aggressive. They do get to about 10 cm, so you're probably going to need to set aside 100-150 litres or so for each territory holding male. Females can be slotted in a little more easily since they're not so territorial beyond wanting to maintain their particular cave. I'd aim to keep a fair sized group, say 5 or more, to minimise bullying.
This species is quite widely kept and you'll find it, for example, in Baensch volume 2. It's also in my brackish book. Overall it is one of the better community tank eleotrids.
Cheers, Neale