most cats tend to bond with their primary caregiver; some only bond with one person while others love anybody. our oldest kitty adores my father and I, but completely ignores my mother for no discernible reason. i've noticed in my experience that male cats are not generally as cuddly but still like attention. most cats generally take an interest in just watching what you are doing; where a dog might try to lick your face while you're on the floor fixing the sink. a cat will probably wander over to see why you're making all that noise. cats are generally more content just hanging out with you while you're doing something. but they still liked to be snuggled and rubbed on! its just not a constant demand for your active attention.
a lot of the biggest behavioral issues with adult cats, just like with adult dogs, stem from baby animals allowed to do things that aren't cute when adult. so don't play rough with young kittens; don't tease them with your feet or fingers: don't let them chew on you or sink claws into you. if they jump up on the table or counter, spritz them with a spray bottle. i personally think that younger kittens understand hissing noises better than just yelling at them; i use a combination of hissing and a stern NO when the cats venture into forbidden territory. cats are more likely to misbehave while you're away, but there's a simple solution for that--don't leave tempting treats out. the only reason terriers aren't just as bad is that they have too much trouble reaching the countertop.
cats are 100000000000 times easier to housebreak than dogs are. just provide sufficient clean litter; what this means depends on the cat, as some are more finicky than others. while it may seem pricey at first, the odor control provided by clumping litters are worth the slightly extra cost. a covered litter box will also do wonders (although younger cats are sometimes hesitant to go potty in a cave).
generally kittens that have spent more time playing with other kittens make better behaved adults because they teach each other that biting/scratching hurts and it isn't acceptable behavior to hurt your friends. if at all possible when choosing a cat, acquire 2 kittens or select an older kitten raised around other cats. most adult cats will also rebond over time with their primary food source, given a calm and non-threatening environment. my oldest cat is like that--she loved me best until I went off to university and now she picks Dad 9 time out of 10.
my last big suggestion is to provide designated clawing posts from the start. try to select a post covered a material completely different from anything else in the house, such as wrapped rope. frequently clipping your cat's claws will also make a big difference; just get the tips. remember, indulging a little scratching on the sofa in a kitten can lead to shredding loveseats in an adult.
