When i post advice to members asking for advice, i always try and thoroughly explain why i am telling them the things i am. Secondly, i try and stick to the issue at hand and avoid side-tracking onto other debates, and always try to avoid getting angry. The way i see it, if you feel strongly about something and are trying to make the other person understand the importance of their situation or crisis, you aren't going to get a word of info across to them if you start being rude, flaming or taking flame bait.
I try to leave cruelty issues aside though as much as i can, because that is a topic where there are such strong opinions/views, it can easily become a very heated subject. I have seen some people abuse their fish very badly, but when it comes down to it, most of these people actually do not know what they are doing to their fish or how much their fish are suffering under their care.
Don't get me wrong- i have known people to abuse their fish knowingly and unconcernedly, but until you know someone's situation and circumstances, its best to avoid judgement on whether they are being intentionally cruel or not until you can see the whole picture and have gained a lot of info on their situation/circumstances.
Also you have to take into consideration that most people that come on here for help, are at least mildly concerned about their fishes wellbeing- they wouldn't be on this forum if they wern't.
But yeah...Just try to keep in mind not to be too judgemental of people. There are people from all walks of life on this forum- some of us have a lot of money, others have very little, some members are 13 years old, while others are 30 years old, some people have 10 tanks while others only have one 5 gallon etc etc. Also try to keep your own ego down a notch or two, even if others have told you are very knowledgable on or good at fish keeping, we are all learning when it comes down to it (and there is always much to learn, whether old or new info), and having a good attitude about the way you go about sharing your own knowledge means a lot to others who are also trying to learn more about this hobby
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